Broke up with my partner because of MIL and her family
As the title says. I will try to keep to the main parts of the story. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years because his mother was insufferable.
When we started dating, she was constantly jealous. Refusing to go to anything that related to me. She would steal money of my ex, had a gambling addiction and was overall emotionally abusive toward him. Anytime he confronted her about this, she would cry and nothing would be resolved. He naturally started pulling away once we started dating.
What gave me the ABSOLUTE ick was when she would try to kiss him on the lips, pinch his bum, and say “I wish I met a man like [ex] when I was younger”. She would ask about sex life and even commented on his 🍆 size.
He moved in with me after a while and MIL went into a deep depression. I tried helping her with groceries, mental health help, even defended her to her family when they said “don’t send her to a shrink, they’ll just lock her up”. I invited her for dinner and even cooked for her. I never did anything bad to that lady and respected her for her position as MIL.
For additional context; MIL and SIL did not get along for the reasons stated above (she did similar stuff to them) SIL and BIL cut contact because of this. Once SIL and MIL made amends, they started ganging up on me. My ex asked why they don’t like me and they didn’t even have an answer. Apparently it was “a lot of things” but didn’t actually name anything. I treated her son with nothing but respect and kindness.
During this time dating him, I felt incredibly isolated. My chronic conditions flared up, I gained weight and just felt horrible. I was constantly stressed every day. He was also stressing because of his family and felt extremely disappointed in them. We decided to end things mutually. A big part of it for me was his family stuff and for him, he didn’t know what he wanted for the future (I did).
We both learned from eachother though, he learned to grow a goddamn back bone. He can now say “no” to his mother without feeling guilty cause he knew I always had his back. I learned to feel safe and trust men. He was a genuine kind and caring man.
If you want any JUICY stories from the shit MIL used to do, let me know. I could write a novel 😅
That’s just the tip of the iceberg btw.