u/itskirathebear

For context, I’m a 21-year-old married woman. My mom died a month ago from a terrible accident. It was completely unexpected. But as expected, it is hitting my family and I incredibly hard.

I’ve been doing some things I typically enjoy, such as reading, scrapbooking, intimacy with my husband, and all these things feel so very empty. Nothing seems fulfilling right now. There are rare moments where I enjoy myself, specifically while spending time with my husband in any capacity, but it’s immediately followed by so much guilt. Like we haven’t even buried her or had her celebration of life but I’m enjoying myself? I don’t know, it feels wrong.

I understand I’m in the very beginning of this grief process since she just passed. But for those who have had a loved one pass, how long did it take for you personally to feel like you could enjoy things? Any nuggets of advice for me?

Hi! This is my first Reddit post so I don’t really know what I’m doing lol, bear with me.

I’ve had an idea for a fantasy book that I’ve been mulling over for months and I’d love to start writing. The problem is that I can’t seem to actually start writing it. I have a world idea in my head, characters, plot, etc but when I sit down to write it out, my mind draws a blank.

In my teen years, I loved writing fanfiction for any series I was interested in. I wrote TONS of it, one of them being over 150,000 words long (it was Reylo for anyone wondering). The thing I loved about it was that a world and characters were already made and it didn’t need to be perfect. I just wrote it because I wanted to.

Now, I have an idea for a world and characters but nothing more. I want to write but I want it to be good, and I’m wondering if that’s what’s preventing me from writing.

Does anyone have advice on how to get started?