AITAH for wanting to go to gym the day our daughter left the NICU
Disclaimer: I did not actually go to the gym.
So, AITA for:
1 wanting to go to the gym on the ride home?
2 Admitting 3 years later that I still feel it would have been okay to go?
The Backstory
Three years ago, our daughter was born with complications and spent 10 days in the NICU. We were completely burnt out, bouncing between the hospital home and and eventually booked a nearby Airbnb (our commute home was severely delayed due to the Danelo Cavalcante manhunt).
Incident 1
On Day 10, our daughter was released.
During the car ride home as a new family, I told my wife I wanted to go to the gym for an hour later that day, after being stuck in the airbnb and the stress of the hospital and worrying about our daughter
She got very upset. She said I was ruining our first day home as a family and spoiling the special moment of the car ride. I backpedaled said "okay" and didn’t go, but it was too late I already ruined the moment
Incident 2
Yesterday, three years later, incident 1 came up in a convo.
She asked if I felt it was okay for me to go to the gym that day.
I chose honesty. I told her I understand why she was upset, but I still feel it would have been fine for me to go to the gym for just an hour, but did not since ultimately did not want to upset her on her first day home