u/jackal_boy

Saw a comment today talking about how bi men "would never" come out to family, and tell them that they plan to marry a guy. (Paraphrasing here mostly)

And my first thought was "omg, that's literally me!! I came out to my parents and even straight up told them that if i have a BF someday I will invite him over to join us for family dinner together on Diwali!!"

......that was before I truly understood the reality of the queer dating scene in India though.

Tbh coming from a privileged background and being a neurodivergent who had been stuck in his head for years..... really did not help, nor did my familiarity with the western queer community instead of the Indian one.

I like ligit had nights crying in my bed last year after finding out something new that's messed up in the queer community in India and how...... wrong it felt to not have known about it.

Heck, I'm in tears while writing this post right now 😅

Truth be told, your reality is completely foreign to me...... And it surprises me that so many of you find it in yourself to want to keep on livin' in it.

I had not known that homophobia and biphobia was a thing until i was 24, and I had not known what real sexism looked like until I was 24..... I had not known this world for what it truly was until 24. The day I did, I had to stop myself from gouging my eyes out, from how ugly it looked......

The very concept of any queer person cheating seems unimaginable to me, not because they were queer, but because knowingly cheating multiple times on someone you say you love them, and yet still being able to exist without a sense of honour or some fundamental values you shouldn't compramise on because you are a human being.... Is a foreign concept too, not just in India but worldwide apparently :/

I think one of the times I cried most was finding out a gay guy I was initially into told me he would rather marry a girl and cheat on her, than be my partner.......

And then it happened again with a different gay guy ........

And that's NOT me throwing shade at gay people btw. I just think we ALL failed somewhere as a society to have raised people who see no issues with such things, you know?

Besides, I don't hate those individuals in the same way as I used to anymore.... I may not like them, but i understand now how its easy for me to say shit like this because I was privileged enough to be raised in a very different environment.....

.......I can't even say for certain if i wouldn't have turned out to be the same as them had I been raised in the same kind and environment they were in to be honest.... And that's a scary thought to confront.....

But it's also important to confront!!

Because otherwise the hate and the fear of biphobia, both together, stops us from addressing genuine fundamental issues in our society that allow people to be hurt by other people......

So like..... I am sorry to all the people who may have been hurt by a bi person. Worse still, you don't know what to do with all this hate, and people judge you for trying to be vulnerable and express yourself...... I'm sorry you had to go through that ......

So, while I WON'T say that it is justified to hate bi people for being bi......... I see your pain is real, and I acknowledge its existence, and will do what i can to make things better in the world on a personal level....

And I'm not asking to stop hating me either, coz no one can just control how they feel about everything, you know?......... I just hope we can still try to understand each other better despite the hate and uncomfortable feelings, you know? 🥺

....... It is because we feel pain that we try to be kind to others.

So hate or no hate .... I'd like to be kind to you too in return regardless 😊💖

Date of this post: 14/MAY/2026
Pride month starts at: 01/JUNE/2026

>! Mentioning the details above in case you were confused about either or both 😅 !<

We're looking for ideas for what to do to celebrate Pride Month as a community 🌈✨

We have our own ideas too, but we want to hear YOUR ideas (as in getting an insight into what the community would actually prefer)

Submit your Ideas in the comments of this post.

Try to think of ideas that can both help build a sense of community, as well as being useful to everyone who takes part regardless of if they win or not.

We would also like to hear about what sort of rewards you all think YOU deserve if you win!! 💟

(Try to ask for something we could reasonably deliver though as mods. So far ideas discussed have been customised user flairs and one allowed self promotion post if deemed appropriate)

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Format for suggestions:

Post your ideas in the comments in roughly the format of:

&gt; One short single line about yourself or your fields of interest. (Optional)

&gt; What your idea is. (Required)

&gt; Why should we do it? (Does it help the community? And if so then how? (Required)

&gt; Suggest prizes for your event/comunity-activity suggestions (option are recomend)

&gt; Extra tldr single small paragraph for additional context (optional but recommend if required )

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Guidelines for suggestions:

&gt; Make sure to be SFW in the comments.

&gt; Don't ask for straight up money.

&gt; Mod team will select winners wherever applicable. We will try to have community voting too but it might be limited or depend on what ends up being chosen to be done.

&gt; Ideally should be something everyone can spare enough time to participate in, and is accessible to as many people as possible.

&gt; try to limit short events to 3 days, and long paced events to once every week for 4 weeks. Former is preferred.

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Conclusion

Anyways, that concludes the announcement from the mod team.

Lets strive to celebrate Pride month as a community, and be there for each other and understand each other's struggles and acquired wisdom 💖

>! Read between the lines. Know that I mean no offense to anyone (who is hurt by this law). Don't give direct answers to my question. Don't ask me to clarify because I can't unfortunately !<

....... I know for a fact that diy htr was a thing before this law too.

From people who were wealthy and privileged enough to do the diy route safely, to also the ones who would just buy pills in a remote village in black from a questionable chemist shop.

My point is.... It's usually been diy htr for most people anyway if I'm not wrong.

And given how important access to htr is (the same way access to vitamin C on a ship is important).... I think it's safe to assume that diyhtr is going to be even more prevalent now that the legal route has been blocked.

Tangent side note:

>! Our Supreme Leader and everyone in his little fanclub can go jump off a basement for being so pathetic as to suggest this was to help trans people. They talk as if they care about our own culture yet they push for colonial era treatment of queer people? !<

>! I suppose I shouldn't be so surprised though. Perhaps for traitors such as themselves, old habits really do die hard, huh? What a bunch of national fucking deficits !<

>! Anyways....... Coming back to what I was about to ask !<

So my question is (and don't give a direct answer to this if you do know the answer)..... Just how big is the current underground of organisations specialising in providing affordable and medically safe and proper htr treatment in India ?

Does it usually includes blood tests and doctor visits on a regular basis? Or the opposite?

To be specific, i am talking about when it's done without a paper trail btw.

Is it easily accessible? Or is it unheard of or very expensive for most people?

And how would you say this could be improved upon by those who offer such services, from a logistics and access-to-dignifide-medical-care stand point?

Because the way I see it...... the boys in भगवा have very little knowledge of history....... And if this new law really does go the way I think it might, I only hope it has the opposite effect than the one they intended.

End of post.

I had an idea

What if I drew art work for every single rule on this subreddit? :3

It would be like a nice way to remember the rules coz you will have an image to associate it with in your head, and I get an excuse to do art 🎨✨

Like, i understand some topics are ..... Sensitive to say the least, but my work nowadays is usually mostly abstract anyways, and I will do my best to preserve the spirit of the rules I draw for, and treat them with the seriousness and validity they deserve uwu

(While staying sfw)

Anyways, good night. I better sleep too or it will be 11 am but feel like only 6⅐ths of a minute ago I wrote this, and then I'll feel bad for procrasting to sleep 😅

..... you know what? If you all want we can make this a community art project too!!

Just tell me about your feelings towards why you find a certain rule of the subreddit to be important to you personally (and I'll take those feelings into account while making the abstract art).

I know some of you will leave negative comments probably about negative feelings and frustrations with the rules...... HOWEVER, is that not also the perfect opportunity for us to try and understand each other if we seek to co-exist in the same world? 🥺

Not saying you have to LIKE a rule only. We can agree to disagree. Heck you might even hate a certain rule..... But I'm not asking you to let go of that hate...... Only that we try to understand each other despite that hate; because otherwise the hate wins, and no one ends up ever truly feeling okay again.

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But yeah , my aim here is to not let people hate someone for what they feel, but instead start a respectful discussion about WHY they feel that way and what can we as a community do to help them 💕

(But no pressure to participate though)

......Treating someone's negative feelings like they don't matter is the same as invalidating their pain inside of what was supposed to be a safe space for them, while also leaving the actual systematic issues behind it being left unaddressed, you know?

So like..... If you are okay with expressing your hateful feelings while acknowledging it's just how you feel at the moment and not what you truly believe in, and that you are just making an astute observation about your own emotional state..... I think it should be okay enough to say in the comments and not break any rules 😅 (Maybe, idk)

But you can DM me too if you feel more comfortable doing that. Just don't be sexually explicit or talk about vanity and you should be good to go.

Let's do this (^w^)

....lmao it's 5:55 now. God damn it 🤣

Gn <3