How I cope with not having a stacy
I accepted: I'm only going to get a relationship with a Stacy when I have money and muscles. For those without qualities, what's left are trash people. Fair
I quit trying until I have those two things.
While working to get them, feelings of frustration are inevitable. But, along with medical drugs, there is something I do. I like to call it: face deprivation.
Basically, I avoid looking at other people as much as possible, especially at their faces. There are classmates I don't even know what they are like, if you showed me a photo of them, I would not know he's a classmate.
I wear sunglasses ALL the time, so that I can close my eyes when talking to someone.
I wake up as early as possible to go to class, so that the risk of meeting (and looking) at other people is smaller.
Oh, and headphones. They are amazing, I wear them all the time, for me to not listen to what everybody is talking about. But the most unusual part is always working to not look to other people and know what they are like. Of course, this is not possible all the time, the thing is doing it as much as possible. I end up having to know what most of my teachers look like, for example. Fortunately, I have so far managed to not know any classmate's face.
I avoid not only pornography, that's not enough. I don't even watch live action movies anymore. They show hot people. The chad that you aren't and the stacy you don't have.
But I do watch cartoons.
On YouTube, I just watch content that is face-free. For instance, I love how some YouTube channels like RealLifeLore are faceless.
Are you thinking of posting pretty girls photos in the comments to mock me? No worries! I scroll down carefully.
There are no-go zones, like malls. Oh, that's just a magnet for Stacies.
Friday night? Truly dangerous
Be away from people who are smarter or prettier than you. The goal is avoiding resentment and envy, because you are already frustrated enough, you don't need any more negativity.
Going to the gym is always dangerous, it's full of Stacies! But keep your sunglasses and know beforehand your training. While going to the machine, heads down, while exercising, close your eyes. Thus you won't know that stacy nearby exists. Oh. And nope. You are not killing opportunities. You know she despises you. By avoiding looking at the people training, you free yourself from resentment, you won't remember that stacy that you can't date or that chad who has muscles far bigger than yours.
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Doing it all has not fixed me, but I have greatly improved. Now, I can pay attention to classes and be more productive, for example. My depression has reduced.
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Reality is clear: dating is easy! As long as you are willing to take any trash. What's hard is getting a Stacy.
It's not like I have achieved what I want yet. But I have gotten improvements since I understood: Just don't look at facades of stories that sell things that are too expensive. Not even out of curiosity! "Turn the other cheek" and don't look!
Believe it or not, but I don't stay home much. I love to go out. Thus, I do all this to survive.
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Everyone is complaining about not having a date... They are lying to themselves. They can date an obese woman or that ugly female next door. Will they? Neither I.
They are complaining about not having a stacy.
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Yes. I'm childish. And I don't care.
Is a stacy that you really want? Is the want of it what's bothering you so hard? Don't deny your wish. If you need a childish way to cope, so be it.
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I wonder that many people would benefit from this "lookist sensory minimization" or "lookism presence fasting."
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How about my mom? How did she react? She did everything to get me out of these ideas. But I never relented. She has become more tolerant, but I wish she were fully accepting it. She hates my wearing sunglasses including indoors.
She doesn't want others to think I'm a weirdo, so I promised her that I wouldn't wear them during classes. Well, I lied. I do wear them all the time. I'm just not going to refrain from my medicines.
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Some might say: But Jacob, you are losing potential opportunities... Nope, I'm not.
It's dumb playing on a lottery where the ticket costs a lot.
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So, yes, I became a North Korea of a person, sort of. These walls are just going to go away when I can compete. Otherwise, I want all riddance from the world.
I won't go to war without weapons, if you don't have any, the best course of action is hiding on the jungle until you get weapons.
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Have you watched Bird Box? It's not an amazingly good movie. But it allows for an analogy.
It's as if you are in the world of Bird Box, but the beings you can't look at are the chads and stacies. They don't end you on the spot, they make you resentful and full of hatred, you chronically sicken.
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Lookism is the reality.