AITA for refusing to drop everything for my family after being the one they always rely on?
AITA for refusing to drop everything for my family after being the one they always rely on?
I’m the person everyone calls when something goes wrong. I’m always there for family and friends, especially two people in my life who constantly need emotional and practical support. I listen, help financially when I can, rearrange my schedule, and pretty much put everyone else first without complaining.
Recently I’ve been struggling mentally after going through a really difficult personal loss. I haven’t properly processed it because I got thrown straight back into work due to being understaffed. I’ve basically been in survival mode carrying grief, guilt, responsibility and everyone else’s problems all at once.
The problem is nobody really checks in on me the way I do for them.
This week I finally said no to helping with another family issue because I genuinely felt drained and emotionally exhausted. Instead of understanding, one family member said I was being selfish and acting differently lately.
Now I feel guilty because they’re used to me always showing up no matter what, but at the same time I’m starting to resent the fact that people seem comfortable leaning on me while ignoring when I’m struggling.
AITA for stepping back and choosing myself for once?