Should I tell him, or ghost him.
Okay so this may be a stretch but I need advice. For reference I’m trans mtf and I was at the bar last night and this guy was hitting on me. This isn’t like a normal fun bar. It’s my hometown cigarette dive bar that me and my friends go to out of convenience. He buys me a shot of tequila and lets me watch the bartender pour it so I know it was safe. Well we’re flirting with eachother and we end up kissing. Now I’m pretty new to dating as a trans woman and it’s been exclusively dating apps until this encounter. We end up going to my car and making out and touching up on eachother a little before I tell him I have to go to my friend’s house (the girl I had been out with. The plan was to go to her place after) I give him my number and he texts me. This happened yesterday and we’ve only sent a couple texts back and forth today but we’ve been nursing our hangovers. I don’t regret it and wouldn’t mind seeing him again but I definitely have to tell him I’m trans before it goes any further. What I’m asking is do I tell him and risk him being upset about it (I don’t want to put myself in a dangerous situation) or do I just put an end to it and he’d be none the wiser. I live in a DEEP red state and he mentioned he was traditional. I also wasn’t dolled up and I don’t think I pass all that much so maybe he already knew. I definitely WANT to tell him just in case he’s okay with it and it turns into something good. I don’t know I’m very torn.
!!!!EDIT FOR MORE REFERENCE!!!!
I found his Facebook and turns out he voted for tr**p and is very religious. So when he says traditional, I think he meant nuclear family conservative maga which is weird given the fact he’s Hispanic but that’s none of my business. Just kinda bummed out because it was very exciting and affirming. I still wanna tell him JUST IN CASE but like also I wouldn’t accept that from someone who already knew I was trans.