I’ve known him and have helped raise him since he was 3 months old because his biological father was never there for him and he’s also not on the birth certificate due to the foresight of my girlfriend. His biological father is also now looking at 5-10+ years in prison for some terrible decisions he has made. I’ve been there changing diapers, late nights where he can’t sleep, early mornings where he’s up and ready for the day, helping him to learn how to crawl/walk and talk, abcs, 123s, vacations, adventures, tantrums, when he was sick with croup I was in the hospital with him and giving him breathing treatments at night staying up late to listen to his breathing and make sure he was alright and everything in between. To me that is my son and my boy but we’re at a point now where he’s starting to call me dada or my name and we don’t know which one to reinforce. I want it to be his choice on what to call me but we also don’t want confuse him, he’s only 20 months old and still learning the world around him. Mom has recently made the decision that she doesn’t want him to have any more video calls with his biological dad in jail because she feels it won’t be beneficial for him because of the nature of the situation and his innocence, it just doesn’t seem like it’s beneficial for him so essentially he won’t be in the picture until he’s old enough to decide if he wants him to be in his life or not. Given the little bit of information I’ve been able to give you, what do you feel like the right thing to do would be? When she says oh we’re going to “blank” to see “my name”
should she say we’re going to “blank”
to see dada? I don’t know we’re just lost in what to tell him :( we just want him to be happy and not be burdened with the confusion that this situation can bring.
Thank you in advance, we’re just confused and want the best for our boy ❤️