Forgot my long distance friend with benefits’ birthday
I (25M) have been seeing my partner (26F) started hooking up in college 3 years ago and have been on and off since. We haven’t been exclusive but we haven’t been with anyone else for at least the past 10 months. Even though we aren’t “dating,” I will refer to her as my partner.
The past year I have had trouble remembering her birthday and accidentally remembered the wrong date. I am no good at remembering dates and heavily rely on my calendar but I accidentally put the correct date and incorrect date in. A week ago my partner found out I still didn’t remember the correct day without looking at my calendar and then she made me promise to delete it from my calendar. She said, “if you really care you won’t need the calendar to remember.” Well it turns out I did need the calendar and I forgot it was her birthday yesterday. To make matters worse I texted her that I didn’t alone time tonight.
After midnight she said she wanted to talk so I called her and after some chit chat she told me it was her birthday and that she felt really bad that I forgot it. I feel terrible that I forgot it but if it was in my calendar I would’ve got a notification. I probably should have written it down somewhere else or tried harder to remember.
Am I the asshole?