my boyfriend broke up with me very suddenly. was there infidelity?
so three weeks ago, my (25m) boyfriend (23m) broke up with me very suddenly after my birthday weekend (my birthday was on a friday, we celebrated and hung out friday, saturday, and sunday, and he broke up with me that following monday). this came very out of left field and left me very frustrated, annoyed, hurt, all the things.
we planned to hang out that monday and grab some dinner. he then came over to my house with my things and broke up with me. as i was dealing with the initial shock of everything, he said “well you’re not responding so i guess i’ll just go.” our almost year-long relationship was ended in about roughly 3 minute conversation.
i then called him once i had something to say (this was probably 5 minutes after he left), and i asked how this came on so suddenly. he said that there were things that he needs that i can’t give him and there are things that i need he can’t give me. when i asked him to elaborate on it, he said that he didn’t want to talk about it and hung up the phone. about a week later, i sent him a text giving him my piece. he has not responded and we have been no contact ever since.
now in processing all of this, my sister said something that i can’t necessarily shake away. “it sounds like he met someone else or was cheating on you and wasn’t telling you to leave unscathed.” now, ex is huge homebody, but he did just complete a very long run of a 4-man show at a professional theatre in our area (we are both actors). i am currently in a production there later this summer, and there are a couple of people from his cast/team that are in my cast. 3 of the 4 men in his cast were gay (and the 1 straight guy is questionable) and he would regularly refer to one of them as “hot frankie” (character name in the show).
now, do i ask the guy in my cast if he noticed anything suspicious going on? they closed the show about a month ago. would something be going on? i’m not even sure what i would do with this information. this whole situation revealed several red flags about him, so i’m pretty much over him and am not planning on contacting him in any way. what should i do?