Second pregnancy, first TFMR experience
Recently received a diagnosis of very high risk T21 (currently 14w) the decision to tfmr is obviously emotional, however, I am very sure that going through the other testing is not in the cards for me and would rather just go through with the d&e while I’m still only 14/15w. We live in a state where that’s not possible so having to go out of state (fortunately we live near the border with Washington.) We have our appointment with our regular OB on Monday who is then going to refer us to a MFM, however, I have made an appointment for next Thursday at planned parenthood.
I’m looking for just any words to help, how to prepare, other people who have had to go to an in clinic, etc.
They told me the whole procedure would be a 4-6hr process. Not a multi-day process.
This is my second pregnancy after having a healthy and beautiful baby girl almost two years ago. So having experienced labor and delivery how does the d&e compare?? What should I be prepared for before and after??
I was recently in another group on the app “what to expect” that was for TFMR and was recently commented on by a person (I have hence reported the comment) that my decision to TFMR was morally wrong and I should leave it all to God. I personally come from a family that had a sibling with SEVERE disabilities whose quality of life is not something I would wish on anyone and the quality of life of those around her has been forever affected. I grew up as not a priority in my own home.