u/justatomics

So I am currently coming to terms with the idea that I might be some kind of asexual or demisexual, but I’m not sure. I keep seeing that demisexuality means you only find someone sexually attractive after you have a deep bond with them, but I’m not sure I understand what sexual attraction actually is.

does finding someone sexually attractive mean you imagine yourself having sex with them? Is it being turned on just by looking at them?

For me I could see a shirtless guy and think he’s “attractive” as in, he has a nice body, face, etc. but is this attraction? Or is this just knowing that someone looks good based on societal norms? What do you actually *feel* when you’re attracted/sexually attracted to someone?