My husband wants me to give him a daily emotion report
Some background: i have been with my husband for over a decade. We are in couples counseling (it’s been well over a year and not our first time). We have also been through our ugliest moments the past couple years but generally are making good progress and I do feel good about this progress.
Lately I’ve been more open with him about my thoughts and feelings (this has been a big CPTSD thing for me I’ve been working on in individual and couples therapy) which takes us to last night, when he expressed concern about the PMDD symptoms I was describing and genuinely seemed to want to know more.
Everything was good until he requested I start reporting to him, every day, what my emotions are and my sex drive. I tried to tell him this was unreasonable but he felt like it was completely justified. It just immediately made me feel gross.. I get he wants to understand how I feel and support me but now I have to report every mood? It makes me feel like “don’t make me think about how you’re feeling just tell me” and it really pisses me off.
He tried justifying it so that he wouldn’t feel rejected and I wouldn’t have to reject him. I told him that’s what therapy is for. I totally get wanting to understand a partners mood shifts but I also feel like, if I look pissed off then you can assume I am pissed off and also am uninterested in sex.
Am I being unreasonable in luteal right now lol or is this an absolutely absurd request?