u/karmokarmo

I became an orphan in my twenties two weeks ago and I have no help from my in laws

Well my mother died suddenly last week I have no dad and she was adopted so I have a very short family, I barely know them. But what hurts me is that my in laws although very young , younger than my mother like twenty years , they don't work , they do nothing all day ( they are divorced) haven't check out on me since the funeral, I don't think this is very normal, they seem narcicistic . At my mother's funeral my mother in law said " well I'm going to live with my BF in Cabo" with the biggest smile and I Brooke down because she was suppose to represent another mother...

So I feel very angry, I think I should.

I have to take care of paperwork and they know how to handle it better than me... of course I am taking care of it alone , but "they don't say look don't forget this or that"Since their parents died years ago they know how to handle burocracy related to death. in some circumstances I went to the bank and the worker said omg you need someone more experienced to be with you because you are still in shook and will forget everything.

as of my BF he is busy working. it's ok!

It's just so cold.

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u/karmokarmo — 3 days ago
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I was her caretaker for over ten years, when she died I was in shook because I haven't seen her without her nasal tubes in years , she seemed at peace... she was only 60 and I am in my twenties, don't know what to do now. She was my main focus for years it was only us... she wanted to live more , she was doing progress between hospitalizations. but one night her oxigen went to 30 and she had lots of CO2 in her brain and she said do not revive in her medical records and they didn't want to do evasive stuff on her , I understand now...she was in alot of pain.

I'll keep lurking around seeing if I can help people. But this illness is bullshit, she went downhill in a week , she was doing fine at home 🏠.

Best wishes

u/karmokarmo — 14 days ago