Hello, we are naming our son Gilbert but cannot figure out a middle name. Since our last name is long (4 syllables) I would like to have a short middle name for him. 1 or 2 syllables. Any suggestions?
Hi everyone. My grandfather went into septic shock on 6/13 after his stoma reversal surgery failed. He was at the hospital after surgery when he got severe abdominal pain and his blood pressure was dangerously low. They had to go back in and a lot of his colon and gave him an ostomy bag again. He was also intubated right before surgery. He spent 7 days in the ventilator before they decided he was ready to come off it. They were still concerned about his kidneys but a couple of days later it seemed to be improving. That only lasted a couple of days and then his labs and testing came back indicating pancreatitis. Its causing him to have difficulty breathing and his kidneys are not doing good again. He barely has any urine coming out and his creatinine levels keep going up. He is on a BiPAP machine but he is so restless and keeps trying to talk to us. He barely sleeps. He's delirious at times. Next steps if he doesnt show improvement are dialysis and intubation. However the ICU doctor told us that if those measures need to be taken its not looking good at all and his children need to come to an agreement on how far they want to push his body. This left all of us devastated and losing hope. Has anyone gone through anything like this? Im not really sure what im looking for here, just needing to let it out. I hate seeing him so uncomfortable and distressed. Its breaking my heart to think this is how he is spending his potential final weeks. Thank you if you made it this far.
Hello everyone. Please brace yourself as i think this will be all over the place. My grandpa (79) had an emergency surgery last year due to diverticulitis. From what I've heard it was very bad and he almost died. I know he had sepsis and the surgeon told me she didn't think he would make it. Thankfully it was not his time and he recovered. However, he has hated his ostomy bag since he got it and has put his life on pause, waiting for reversal surgery to be available. He was super embarrassed of his bag. To the point where he wouldn't go out. He doesnt join us for gatherings and was just depressed over the bag.
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Well the day finally came. After many tests to make sure he could handle the reversal, he went under on Wednesday and got it done. Surgeon said it all went well and when we went to visit that afternoon he seemed to be doing well, and overall elated that his life was going to go back to normal without the bag. We were all happy for him and excited to have him back to participating in events again.
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Well Saturday morning my mom calls and immediately I can tell something is wrong. She said his blood pressure dropped dangerously low overnight and they couldn't stabilize him. He had to be rushed to emergency surgery but this one was more risky since they didn't know what was wrong and he would be cut open for this one (the reversal surgery was laparoscopic). Surgeon said the descending colon where the anastomosis took place just looked awful when they went back in. It was super inflamed and when stool started going down it got infected. It also caused a small leak. This lead to sepsis and he went into septic shock. That's why his blood pressure was tanking. He's still in critical condition in the ICU. He's been intubated and heavily sedated since the emergency surgery. Getting lots of IV meds and nowhere near being safe but we're going to remain optimistic. He's a fighter and I believe in him.
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However, he now has a new stoma and the surgeon says no way will they risk another abdominal surgery ever again. Its permanent. Understandable, I dont want him to get one either. But im afraid this will completely devastate him. We'll have to break the news to him once he's extubated and awake again. How can we support him best? How do we get him to understand its nothing to be ashamed of? Are there any support groups? From my understanding what he hated the most was the odor and the gasses. I guess he had a lot but I never noticed. I know there are different types of bags and products we can try out. Can anyone recommend which ones have helped them the best? Any words of encouragement are heavily appreciated. Thank you so much.