Do parenting coordinators help?
Separated 3 years, divorce still not finalized. He continues to delay each time citing some confusion in what we agreed to. I believe the language to be clear yet he claims he cannot understand it and seeks clarification from the mediator we used (4 times).
In the draft agreement, I asked for a parenting coordinator because I saw this pattern of him "interpreting" the parenting plan differently every time there is a schedule change. I do not want to pay my lawyer and a mediator each time he decides he wants to interpret the plan. ex. Each parent may take 7 days of summer vacation. His parenting started on a friday- they took a flight saturday, then they fly back on Friday. That's 8 overnights and 7 days. He is stating his "vacation" time doesn't start until Monday because the Friday he started parenting time was just normal his parenting time, so he doesn't have to return the kids to me until Sunday and then his normal parenting time starts again on Monday. A normal co-parent would take Friday- Thursday, even Friday to Friday would be fine, but Friday to the next Sunday and then back to regular parenting is a stretch.
The question is, will a parenting coordinator actually hold him accountable to the parenting plan?
It feels like my only option is to record each violation of the agreement and once I have a stack of them, to go to court, where he's likely to get a slap on the wrist and a request to "do better". Meanwhile my children are afraid of him and would rather spend less time with him. I feel like I am in an impossible situation with the constant manipulation. Or everything there is some disagreement, that I'll need to amend the parenting plan so he can't play the same game again.