u/ketchup_bottle002

Been 8 months, first job straight after getting my BA. Oh my god I'm so clueless. I can use softwares fluently (kinda? altho i still learn new things about revit's constraints everyday, like just having a cohesive and clean revit file a whole other topic) but man, how anything works or why they change something 3 times a day is beyond me. I get stuff explained to me and i do it EXACTLY how it was explained, but somehow something always has to be off and im like why tf is this like this now😭 and ofc days or weeks after im done modeling something (literally as it was explained to me), someone remembers some sort of regulation that is broken and then it's just going back and fourth, never ending loop. Ofc people forget one of the billion aspects they have to consider when planning, totally normal, but oh my god this field is a fricking ocean. I feel like an AI sometimes. Worst part is the amount of overtime i do but when i wanna look back at what im doing all week, it's really not that much (or not so visible, like revit cleaning and fixing and modelling and annotations etc) 😭😭 While everyone is really nice and patient with me, i cant help but feel like that im gonna get fired at some point cuz there's too much i don't know🤣

Generally speaking, when I come across muslim men either in community events or just passing by during uni, or even my own brothers friends, we don't have any interaction beyond a "hello". Mostly avoiding eye contact. Even (the greater majority of) my own male cousins we hardly interact and are always avoiding each other. I don't think I've ever had a regular convo with a muslim guy around my age other than my brothers or two cousins. While for non muslim guys (again, at uni or job) they're pretty normal and treat everyone in a friendly way, like they have no fears while interacting with girls and having small talk or a normal convo (and shaking hands or fist bumping).

I feel like the heavy connotations on gender differences in our culture keep us way too divided which is the root of problems. I wish guys and girls could learn to treat each other normal with healthy boundaries like it is with non muslim people.

I'm just saying muslim guys and girls are avoidant to each other in casual interactions in comparison to any non muslim vs any muslim.

But maybe that's just my experience living in the west, I don't have a muslim friend group to see how others treat each other.