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Calling all athletic girlies. Let me start by saying that i am thin, and am constantly losing weight and my appetite is basically null. I don't need to lose or gain weight per se but my body is so damn stiff and i have no muscles.

I spend ALL of my waking hours on a desk and a screen. Be it work, university, or even my own hobbies which happen to be gaming and art 🥲🫢

I've been having arm and neck pain, and upper back pain, although i always fix my posture cuz i don't want to end up with an arched back. It's just that i feel like the area around my shoulders is hurting by the end of the day from sitting straight and having my hands on a keyboard and mouse. I'm 24 btw 😭 I try to do stretching and stuff but that could only do so much. But i do loooove walking, I don't get tired from walking around ever.

How do i get started with physical activities? I have zero athletic background and have never been in any sport, never been to a gym ever. Im not so fond of gyms (hijabi, clothing and travel inconvenience as i live far and also don't know how to use equipment and such and also have no one to go with) so i have some anxiety about going that discourages me, besides commitment. I would really like to get into a sport, tried boxing just because it was an all woman private club but i was so bad at it and eventually got bored (too violent for me 😂). I would like to try bouldering but i feel like it's not appropriate for a hijabi. i really don't know how to start especially when i notice most people my age are already ahead in regards to gym or sport expertise....

Finally, i feel discouraged mostly because of the hijab, the inconvenience and I don't have any sporty hijabs/don't know how to wear them/where to buy them and not look like an egg. So if anyone has tips i would highly appreciate 💞

I don't mind that most of the new items require pink hearts, because otherwise it wouldn't be fair for the players who spent money for them. But material packs? Blue hearts and stars are too much, regardless of the weekly limit. We always get material packs for free as we play and progress in the game so it's only fair if they cost gold. In fact, I'm certain that players would be more willing to buy pink hearts just for specific items since it's no gamble anymore, but they fumbled it with the expensive material packs.

Ranting because i got the pool and am disappointed. I wanted to make a really large lake castle, but i guess I'm sticking to blue flooring for most of it :(

Maybe european universities/cities share lots of similarities to each other. But if your university/city is arguably "better ranked" than the host university or the city you applied to, does that invalidate the experience?

This is a perspective I'm getting from people around me. I'm Austrian, and I applied (and got) erasmus in a non European city far away but now some people are telling me what's the point of going somewhere worse than where i am, why not go to like france or Switzerland... Which is not something i considered at all because I'm going for the cultural experience.. and I didn't like the thought... what do you guys have to say?

I'm still halfway through my master's but am planning to do the thesis in a year's or 1.5 year's time. Still no clue what i wanna do, but i do know that i would like to do the thesis at a company. So basically working there while writing my thesis about whatever im doing there. Is that a thing? And is it for very specific topics or is there something to find? I understand that no one cares about thesis or grades or whatever we did during university when hiring (except for work experience, which i am preparing for as i work part time in a classic architecture firm). I would really appreciate some advice

What work/niche that makes you really like your job? And if you are not working currently what kind of job would you love? Doesn't have to be solely architecture related, though, as this degree gives quite broad skills.

Currently pursuing masters degree while working a part time job at a very small "family" firm, for a little over a year already. I have no clue what I wanna do exactly in this field so right now I'm just here for experience, and my work is mostly drafting and revit. Everyone is nice, my boss is cool, i do some overtime work but not that much - office culture. Based in Austria.

My university has an abroad exchange program for one semester in south east asia and I got in. I wanna quit, do this exchange abroad, come back and look for another job, and i would be hopefully starting my master's Thesis during that time.

The thing is, I'm already bored of this job; stress, chaos and little organisation, things taking forever to get done (yes my effort and visible output are so out of proportion, so i stay longer but the work still doesn't get finished perfectly :( it's just the nature of the tasks, as my coworker says). The positive is that I'm always learning lots of things like revit tools for professional settings and construction and just how architecture projects get carried (im part of 4 residential projects), besides the friendly office environment. Although i was hoping that architecture work [that i would be involved in] would involve a bit more variety like site and factory visits or more "moving around" rather than just sitting in front of the pc 8 hours a day cleaning a messy 3d model, but this firm is like that and we all do that, so.

So i think im in a lucky position as a newbie to this field and should leverage this and not quit after 1 year... Although everything in me is screaming at me to go to south east asia because it would be eye opening :/

I'm afraid if after quitting this job and being gone for a few months, It would be difficult to find another job. It was already SO hard to find the current one, and I got the offer while looking for an internship, but they wanted 3d modellers so they hired me instead. Wouldn't it be so early to quit after a year ? And the next job might be the same boring and time consuming tasks because I'm still early in my career and that's what juniors are given.. I really like architecture but it's too broad and I can't find my "thing", because i like understanding systems and working around that, but i really know absolutely nothing nor what "job" would i be really perfect for, so im just experimenting in whatever's handed to me. I also think that i would be a better fit in a company, corporate life, with schedules and teams and different departments in a company building and cafeteria and shit, i guess that would compensate for the low pay, lol.

Might be a confusing title but i hope you would understand from the context of this post😅 just wanna share some thoughts

How when women participate in neutral things, no matter how anything turns out, it kind of turns back to the representation and generalisation of women as a whole rather than the actual performance, and whatever feedback or reactions about the fact has to come back to stereotyping women? Like women driving, one girl makes a common road mistake then suddenly all girls can't drive xD one woman breaks down during stressful times then suddenly all girls cannot hold themselves and are emotional and can't lead/take up higher up roles. Etc. But for guys it just reflects back to the individual or the situation and circumstances rather than getting generalized to the male species. I want a reality check or am i actually an angry feminist (what im called when i point that out🤣)

Hypothetically, a team made a rocket. If it was all male they would be referred to as "rocket built by [country] team". If they're female then they would be referred to as "female team from [country] built a rocket" and the reactions would include comments about their backgrounds, their relationship status, their looks and clothing... What about the rocket?

I just realised it again after watching Supergirl. The movie is honestly just fine?? I've seen most superhero movies (and most of them are forgettable tbh) and i cannot tell what makes this one so bad and why it's so over-hated, genuinely. Not saying that it's the best superhero movie out there but I did really enjoy it, it's light, simple, unserious and funny, and has meaningful side characters. And i say that as a marvel lover whose fav hero is spiderman since i was a kid😭

I speculate that many mixed reviews came from people who are not used to seeing girls take up most screen-time in male dominated genres, and also zero romantic plot. The people who "defend" the movies get called feminists/performative/cinema illiterate. Not forgetting how many opinions are also following the pack and not unique to each person. HOWEVER i did feel the same about other female lead superhero movies who also had very bad reviews, so i might be the 'feminist' these people talk about 🤣 or i just don't have such a strong critical eye to superhero films, idk. I prefer thrillers anyway.

One final comment is that i noticed that some families in our Muslim cultures avoid watching female lead movies because it's female lead and might be inappropriate, and that includes the superhero genre. But idk for us in the west nobody cares but also nobody ends up liking the movie or watching "girls fighting" 🤣

I think motorbikes are very practical and great for daily use and are also super cool. I wish to be a biker girl, and the safety gear and thick clothing works well with hijab. Well i use public transportation (no complaints it's all good) and while there is a car it's not so practical because it's a family car and parking is shi and my family are so afraid of accidents and think that driving is so hard (🙄) so i never go (im literally the safest driver in the world and never got a ticket ever but oh well). Also im 24, have a job and my own money BUT in this household nobody is allowed to make their own decisions, it's the principle 😀 my family say that not all dreams are meant to happen and not only does it not "suit" me as a woman (🙄), it's also unsafe (debatable). I think at some point I'm gonna make it happen, maybe not 24 but definitely 30s !!

Just wanted to share this supposedly very wild Barbie pink "dream" 🤪

I was born and raised in Germany, but ethnically im Arab muslim, I've also never lived anywhere else or visited much in other continents, and i dream to do an internship abroad or a job with a lot of travelling. I'm very interested in different cultures. I applied to an exchange semester in Indonesia through my uni (bachelor's student), and got accepted 🫣 it's scary but it is exactly what i want: a muslim country, safe for women, and it's a beautiful place. As a hijabi i think i would ove it there, because im surrounded by white people all the time 🤣 Also it would be all through my university, and there are other students too.

My father is onboard and really supportive Alhamdullilah. my mom is completely against it. She keeps telling me to drop it although i got accepted and im going through with it and doing the paperwork now. My mom isn't "angry" refusing but more like "upset" refusing. She says go to London or somewhere closer (nothing interesting for me is offered except Indonesia) but not Asia. I tried showing her the campus, the streets, the stats about the city, how my university is organising everything and that it's not the first time there, etc etc. But to no avail. Please help me here because it's upsetting her so much which I don't want because i love my mom more than anything 😭 it's hard to discuss any further and idk what to do when everything is set in stone. It's just 3-4 months away..

I'm based in Vienna and just finished the first year of my master's in architecture. Alongside my studies, I've been working part-time at a small residential architecture firm for a little over a year, and I've also completed previous internships.

I enjoy BIM and have been using Revit since early in my bachelor's, which has helped me land my current job and previous internships. I also completed a minor in computer science, learned some programming, and used it for Grasshopper projects. I enjoyed that side of architecture, but I found it quite theoretical and relied on AI whenever things got more complex. So far i have 2 works published.

To balance that out, I wanted experience in a traditional architecture office. While I like my colleagues and the atmosphere, I don't see myself drafting plans for the rest of my career. Most of my work is some 3d modelling, 2d plans, schedules, and calculations, and I spend the entire day at a computer, always. I hoped to have more site visits or like manufacturer visits. Things get only explained to me but i haven't SEEN anything after more than a year.

I'm realizing I'd prefer a career with more variety: site visits, meeting people, learning new things, occasional travel (or lots of travelling for work. I would love to spend the rest of my 20s and early 30s moving around the world), and still having a creative side rather than just drafting all day. I don't mind drafting and i don't mind turning my mind on autopilot sometimes to do the same repetitive work, just not most of the time. Besides it's a small firm so there isn't a lot of tolerance for mistakes (nobody rechecks my work, i struggled when i was new, but I'm still a junior even after more than a year here). Also realised i might be more fit in a larger (and more organised, with protocols and corporate stuff) company than a small studio with few people.. but idk. Well if im not gonna get paid well and wil always work overtime then i should at least enjoy the job and learn alot right? I like architecture, especially the digital side of it, but i cant pin point where to go.

I'm also considering quitting my job to go on an exchange semester in Asia next spring (got accepted!!!), even though the job market isn't great for us juniors. But if i don't do it now i would graduate with no similar abroad life experience. Finally, i am/will be looking for options to do my master's thesis (in like a year's time) under the supervision of a company - i heard that option is common for other majors but I'm not sure how to do it in ours and i hope i can relate that to the direction that i would like to take with my career after graduation, because eventually i would love to pursue a phd (again, we are paid in pennies and will always work overtime, so why not get some achievement while being kinda my own boss).

For those who've moved away from traditional architectural drafting, what niche or adjacent career did you end up in? Which paths would you recommend looking into? Has anyone experienced the things I'm looking for and could give me insight? I never tried any of these things and don't know if i would love or hate them hence why I'm struggling to lay my finger on the choice and the path that suits me, because the field is broad and i don't want to be a jack of all trades but master of none xD i wanna master one. Also chatgpt said i would absolutely love being a bim coordinator or work in computational design, but idk what the nature of these works are 🤣🤣

I was placed s3 and thought i was finally gonna rank up only to find out that i became silver 4?? Wth... What's the point?

I've played a few more games and now im g1 but ranking up looks like it's gonna be a long road

Being the only non-white person in the workplace certainly makes people curious to learn more about us. I'm 24 and i live with my big family. They do NOT understand how this works out, especially because i have older brothers who are not yet married. They're always so astonished by adults still living with their parents, and how we don't leave home until we get married. I constantly get comments like "must be nice to always have someone that cooks at home" and many in this energy, but not negatively meant, just comments because my coworker hates cooking for her difficult and picky bf😂 they're also even more shocked on how my mom raised 4 kids while working and studying, and how we all live together while being 20+ y.o, all employed.

I mean moving out and living independently is also a cultural aspect i wish our part of the world was more open about, but this doesn't mean that one is right and the other is wrong. Although everyone in my age group is basically living with their boyfriends, and atp we can just refer to them being married because they practically live the married lifestyle. But omg what a hassle having to explain to them and them thinking we still live like children (well behind closed doors we all know what boys in brown households are like, but that's not something i ever say to them and i just say that my brothers can take care of themselves unlike your picky bf xD). They visit their parents like thrice a year if they're lucky, while I don't even have my own room 🥲. Yet again, i would rather not marry anyway, and would rather endure all these comments

I got the tickets close to the date (by a miracle), and we had to plan the train rides, accommodations and schedules on short notice, all after work hours and other responsibilities and to keep it within budget. I have never attended any concert before - I don't know how it goes or what else people do there or the whole fan culture around it. I just love bts and the music. As a result I wasn't very prepared for the concert: casual outfit (not even on the colour theme - i had also travelled on the day of and was on low energy) hadn't looked at the merch or thought about what i wanted ( i planned to just pick and shop directly from the booths), and I didn't know about the army freebies or prepared any posters 😭

I was very shocked by the merch prices, some cost even more than the ticket!! The zip up hoodie looked so good but 220 euros is just unreasonable:( I ended up not getting anything:( no souvenir no nothing. The only thing i got was a bracelet, candy and a JK photocard from the sweet girls sitting next to us. I had no idea why they were giving them🤣 but was very grateful and im still wearing that bracelet rn at work.

However the concert was a BLAST and i sang along every single song!!!! I keep researching my clips with a wide smile.

Now my feed has become all about the concert. I am just now learning about all that. I really regret not having prepared myself better. Even if it's a simple red and black outfit instead of my dumb blue striped tshirt 😂 The pictures would've looked much better. I also regret not standing at the booth longer because if i thought twice, i would buy the 30 euro plush keyring. It's cute and i do have use for shit like this hahah, and 30 euros is spendable in comparison to 100+ on clothing you're not gonna wear much. I just wish i planned/thought more. I wish i also knew what all these armies gatherings are because i saw large groups of people with stuff but didn't know what it was, otherwise i would've joined in and socialised 🤦‍♀️

For their next tour i will definitely go all out. I just didn't think getting tickets was even possible but it just happened. All i have is the best memories from the whole trip and my clips that i keep rewatching 🥹

These players are rich and famous and can do what they want idc but it gives me the ick when they claim that they're muslim and make prayers before a game and sujud when scoring, while hanging out with girls and attending parties and free mixing so openly (and taking off their shirts, and showing their thighs..). And no one seems to care? No one points out that they don't represent their religion at all? Where is the haram police?

That kid Lamine Yamal is a spectacular player and from what i hear about him he seems great as a person too, but omg can we all agree that he's most definitely not a practicing muslim? hanging out with girls every night and also performing sujud.. same thing with the Egypt players (they were ROBBED) but in one of their games they prayed and recited Quran before the game and after they won they were filmed singing a very vile song about zina with women (that also implied ugly violence:/).. keep in mind some of them have gfs as and make sure to never miss out on the fun... and many many many more you already know of. They love showing their moms and wives in Hijab while being like that.. idk i find it hard to relate to these people and don't understand why they're idolized as muslim players by muslim audience.

Ofc i gotta point out the double standard that any woman that happens to belong to a Muslim country has to be dragged and degraded for the most minor things, whether she's a non-muslim or a hijabi (worse) 💀 people see these football players as football players and talk about their skill, while for women it doesn't matter what she's here for, people would always comment on her clothes or her life and deen.

However my post is about the football players rather than the double standard

I don't wanna get married, seriously, but my family is always bringing it up. That it's eventual, will happen and i cant just live my whole life unmarried. The reason i don't want this is because i don't think I'm fit for it - personality-wise, socially (cannot be bothered with hosting for his family and tending to a "community", i cannot cook with love, dont care about food and i have this genuine belief that every individual adult must tend to themselves, so u will never see me doing nobody's laundry or cleaning after some guy), and i dont want children, not built for that, im one of those people 💀 and most importantly, i really wish to travel for work and studies... Marriage means settling and staying where u are for the next 20 years, and i seriously shiver at this thought. anyways i dont think about all this too much but im already 24, halfway through my master's degree, and my family seriously thinks that in a year's or 2 year's time im gonna get married, when i am already lined up for an exchange semester in another continent and am planning to pursue doing my master's thesis at a company (which could also be abroad...) but i still gotta convince my mom to let me 🤣. I'm passionate about my field but I'm also not the kind of person who likes to put a hundred things on one plate, i don't think the stress of juggling caring for a whole family and a home besides personal projects and work is something i would do, it's either or. As women, marriage means lots of compromise for us.. bodies, health, lifestyle, all will change while for men it's just normal life but someone at home to keep them company..

I'm very open to consider all this after I'm 28 years old, maybe i would find someone.. not so traditional.. that shares some of my mind.. by then i should (insha'Allah) be well established and have achieved some goals (TRAVELLING!! not tourism, but work and volunteering etc etc etc), because im genuinely passionate about my field, im not done exploring what niche i want to do but i want to be able to get to try lots of things and properly experience life on my own in different places and work. But my family keeps saying im too feminist, my mind is all twisted, im not a "normal girl", I'm being childish, and people make it sound like I'm missing out, that it's not fulfilling if you don't start a family and have kids etc... that now is the perfect time or whatever because 25 is women's prime or whatever BS. I love life now, i love going to work and love going to uni, I don't want it to end..

I have been seeing a lot of these examples lately, and i come across them quite often in my daily life. The way aunties talk about potentials for their sons, what women (hijabis or not) are/should be wearing during the heat wave, whether it's at home or outside of it (when most men are topless and in swim shorts always). And now the recent news about an influencer talking against women's independence, which has brought an influx of compilations of female celebrities who, hypocritically, don't support women's rights, when they themselves are rich and successful cuz of those rights. It's still an insane concept to me that a woman cannot make choices without a male mehram's approval. I always wonder what the equivalent for men is, like a young guy can do whatever, try out anything and be spontaneous, while for women that is a controversial topic.. why? A guy can just move to another city on a whim while a woman has to ask her whole bloodline.. i also notice that working women's jobs are not taken seriously in their personal lives. Like they don't get asked about their jobs or careers or future plans etc in family or community gatherings by other women (and here I'm talking about the previous generation, so let's say ages above 40), I've also noticed that sometimes it's forgotten that they HAVE jobs and their time has to be respected (i.e. they shouldn't get interrupted constantly/aren't free during every random afternoon). from my personal experience, only men have asked me about my jobs and what i do and showed some interest in these gatherings, that was also the case when i was a student, they'd show interest in my major and throw in some random facts or stories about it... Women's convos tend to be different.. they always show interest in my brothers careers and jobs etc but i never get asked anything, but rather what i like to do at home or where i like to shop :/ when I'm working full time :/ in the movies it's also a woman who is against another woman for the favor of herself or another man, just accidentally saw two movies that had this dynamic somewhere this week xD Another case is when my cousin was talking about his male boss that had a baby and went on parental leave, and my aunts were joking about men nowadays getting paid leave to change babies diapers when it should be the woman's and her female family members job (???????btw boss's wife is a fricking lawyer herself, on maternity leave). Well it's just that it's way too often that i see that and i genuinely believe that this is what holds us back the most. I don't understand why some women do this.

So apparently the initial download size alone takes up about 3 GB, but the whole game will need up to 15 GB as you play!!!! On mobile!! That is insane to me even though my phone has 128 GB of space, and rn I have 17 GB free...

I'm a hijabi and I got tickets for BTS in a nearby city with a non-muslim friend. I don't think it's sinful to attend especially because this specific band/shows are family friendly and don't handle inappropriate or haram themes. My family is conservative in a good way and they let me do what i want, and for this band they understand that it's not just any concert, however it is clear that they don't approve and they think I'm too influenced... I really don't think it's that deep but it's also because we have to take an extra step which is a train and a night stay at that nearby city they think I'm just doing too much like westerners and that it's not something people like us do, especially attending large concerts.. i just hate upsetting my parents whom are so dear to me, I don't understand why it's viewed so bad that "i do what i want" and am "so not traditional" and that includes other things, not just wanting to attend a stupid concert for the first time in my life.

My friend and I were able to get concert tickets to see BTS as they are going to come to the city near ours. If you don't know BTS, they're a massive group and the demand is crazy, they have a massive fanbase of all ages. So trust me when i say they're family friendly - no inappropriate music or inappropriate moves, no stripping/skin showed etc. there are children and parents in this concert. i am a hijabi and my friend is Christian, we've been friends since 8th grade (we are 24 years old now).

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Now i know this is controversial but music for me and my community is not haram as long as everything is within boundaries. I pray, read/listen to quran and everything in between and I also enjoy music while doing whatever. In my POV, this is completely alright to attend, genuinely. A large football stadium (80k seats) they will perform in, and im with good company in the upper seats just enjoying a show and a performance. I wouldn't go to just any concert because some artists perform inappropriately, but not this one. This is my argument.

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My parents don't agree and they say it's fine to listen to music and watch videos but my hijab doesn't fit in a concert (but they don't know BTS or what kind of concert this is - they're imagining a bar party 😭) my brother knows BTS and says they're an exception because (like i said) they're family friendly so he is fine if I go, would rather I don't though. My family's issue is that they're an international band and everything is foreign. My other Muslim friends said there's nothing wrong and we (as in the Muslim community) already attend music shows of artists from our country, and they sometimes have more inappropriate songs unlike BTS. I already made my choice though after thinking a lot, and am planning with my friend etc, because I know where I'm going and know that it's not wrong. But now that this is nearing and i just hate to see disappointment on my mother's face... I would like some advice...