how do you deal with people like them?
I 16[F] am studying in 11th grade right now and there is this person, their very presence has been bothering me and I want y'all's opinions.
let's call this person A. She and I were in the same school before, but we never talked; we were in different sections, so our paths never really crossed.
now if you were even to mention her name to anyone from our school, they will awkwardly at her or start swearing because she was famous, for all the wrong reasons
now for the problem, I think she is a narcissist and very insufferable
I first met her on the day of the interview of our new school where she was with one of my classmates lets call her B. Now, B and I were good friends and were happy to see each other (B got admission in another school) and A was like her and B were cousins and type shit which I personally didn't really care for but B looked uncomfortable, like I said no one likes her.
Then came the first straw: I asked B You scored such good marks in boards, aren't you going to get a present from your parents? And she was like, "Yeah, I was thinking about getting a smartphone" She then said that I want something other than an iPhone, and then a LITERALLY waved her iPhone at my face and was like ", Yeah, she was thinking to get an iPhone, but after seeing mine she changed her mind". I was like, "okay...?" Then B asked me what stream I am choosing I was like ARTS and then I asked her which subject of yours didn't make it to your top 5 we both were like "maths." then I was like my parents forced me into arts because they thought it was my strong suit and didnt want me to take study the subjects which I didnt even like and then A goes on in very conceited manner "whispering" to B which I could hear she said "yeah I have heard children who are weak in maths are forced by their parents to take the arts stream because they have no expectations from them". I did not say anything.
then we were asking how much everyone has got and I said I got 90% which is 89.7 but round off karke it's 90 only. so I said that, and then A goes on again in a very loud and confident tone "No you are lying I saw your marks you did not score 90". remember when I mentioned our paths never crossed?yeah. how do you know my marks when you dont even know as much as my name? she obviously did that to make me angry and argue with but B calmed me down before things could escalate
now onto to our first day of school, she clung to me as if we have known each other for so long, and asked me to lead OUR to the class ( we are in the same class ) sat next to me
now I am a friendly person by nature or so I think, so naturally I was asking for everyone's names and past schools; I sometimes sit with my both legs on the bench AND SHE WAS TAUNTING ME not to sit like that not to talk like that and whatnot she said we are not in our girl's school anymore and that I should behave in short, trying to ruin my reputation on the first day. then we regrouped with our old school's friends, and she started mocking me in front of my friends saying that "social anxiety is scared of me" and that I have "no self-respect" and I should "let people talk to me first" and mind you she says all of this very obliviously as if she so right and everyone is gonna love her "jokes" then back at class because she was clung to me I introduced myself to everyone by "losing my self respect" she got the intros too 😍 and the friends I made losing my self respect she told me to sit on the side so she could sit in the middle and chat with "her" (mine) friends. and there are just so many things I will write them briefly, point-wise
- I waved to my old teacher who was in my previous school and she shouted visibly or should I say audibly, loudly "why do you have to do such embarrassing, embarrassing things"
- I became friends with another girl from our old school who is supposedly her "friends" or atleast A thinks so and asks the other girl "how do she tolerate me"
- then we were talking about karate and stuff and A went like "SINCE WHEN WERE YOU IN KARATE" I was, in fact, not in karate but a very favourite of our teachers she asked me twice and because I ignored her question, I wouldnt be surprised she never saw me because no one in our batch wanted to be with her so she literally stuck up to my younger cousin and her friend and since they were a year junior they couldnt push her away
- Not to mention she acts extra jumpy and likeable around boys, trying to be one of the guys which just icks me so bad
- a classmate of her from our old school told me that she is also a casteist and once said to a girl that she can't talk to our because her caste is too high and hers is too low
- she is a wannabe rich person when she really is not. We were talking about how difficult it is to wear our dupatta, and she mentioned that she has her maid do it for her, she mentioned her maid 3 times in a single sentence because no one gave a f
she just says things so out of pocket and that too sensitive stuff that you just cant react quick enough to counter back
and now came the final straw: she has been fairly absent from school, and I was too absent for 2 days so naturally I would come to the place which I would assume is my seat right?(our seats havent been assigned yet) the girls I MADE FRIENDS with, which she just got a free pass in the group, A says that we have made our group and you should sit somewhere else (she involved the captian and who else to move me out of MY seat) SAYS THAT WHILE SEATING ON SEAT WHICH I HAVE BEEN SEATING ON SINCE THE BEGINNING and she even involves the teacher and then I was compelled to move our teacher wasnt even willing to hear me out she says that its hot and 4 cant sit on one place( I come early btw) and YET THIS BITCH INSISTS ON SITTING IN THE MIDDLE BECAUSE SHE IS FUCKING INSECURE THAT BETWEEN THREE PEOPLE SHE WOULD BE LEFT OUT AAAAAAAAAAAHJHHHHHHHHHHHHHUFYAEOSCHJN
so now I don't WANT revenge, but I want her to know her place. Of course, I can't discipline her but I NEED to know countermeasures to my problems. Please, guys give me some useful advice I am all in to avoid conflict but she is not a person one can just "ignore"
Help a fella out.
this was exhausting to type