u/kitsunevremya

This is such a weird one guys, but I'm trying to identify the word to describe the way a particular person I know smells? I'm absolutely shocking with describing scents so thought I'd outsource this one. I've gone around the house and smelled everything I can think of from old clothes to shoes to various chemicals to try to find what's closest, and it's the Pulmicort puffer! It's not EXACTLY the same but definitely the most similar thing I've found.

The best I can come up with is 'musty' or 'stale' but I don't know if they're the most accurate? I'm hoping that if I can figure out what the best word is it might help deliver the message a bit more softly, especially if I can narrow down where it might be coming from (genuinely can't tell if it's hair or breath or even clothes possibly).

Fairly certain I have hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). I had a ragingly high libido as a teenager and in my very early 20s, and since then (now 28) it's just been downhill with absolutely 0 explanation. Happy marriage, attracted to partner, life is generally great, I don't drink or use substances, and I'm healthy with the exception of endometriosis (had excision in 2020) and ADHD (low dose dex, well-managed), neither of which line up with the decline timeline. Hormones are generally normal with the exception of some long and/or anovulatory cycles due to the endo (oestrogen sometimes remains high, suppressing FSH, but testosterone, prolactin etc are all normal).

I just feel like I've tried everything. I've read books (absolutely hated Come As You Are, but tried some of the advice anyway). I've tried CBT. I've tried new and experimental things to spice things up. I've tried just letting it go and not focussing on it to avoid putting pressure on myself. Nothing seems to work! It's been an issue for ~5 years now and I truly am starting to feel a bit hopeless. We were TTC for 18 months and oh my goodness I cannot overstate the struggle of trying to time intercourse when there was just 0 desire except maybe 1-2 times a month. But sometimes I can go 2 or even 3 months without being able to get in the mood.

The reason I put 'Australia' in the title is that two major treatments available in the US, flibanserin (Addyi) and bremelanotide (Vyleesi) aren't approved here. I've brought it up with doctors and there doesn't seem to be anything that can be done aside from "try birth control?" (nope, spent years on a few different formulas, all horrific).

Would very much appreciate any advice or success stories, particularly for other younger Australians.