porn addiction makes my gf question if she wants a non-monogamous relationaship
i have been faced with this situation for a bit under a week now and i figured asking the source of people who suffer from it would give me some insight.
my gf and i have been dating for 3 years now and she recently told me shes questioning if she is non monogamous, since when she watches porn she feels an overwhelming urge to have sex with other people. because she hasnt gone for long without relapsing she tells me she gen doesnt know if the urge is bc shes an addict or if its bc she isnt mono.
in order to answer the question she has finally decided to quit for good this time, taking it slowly but steadily since quitting suddenly has never worked in the past.
for context:
she only feels the urge when actively consumming, but when she doesnt she feels normal. it also comes with feeling apathy and disconfort towards me instead of love. she has told me this is affecting our relationship since i am 100% mono and she feels like making me wait for a definitive answer is unfair.
honestly the uncertainty is killing me, and i wonder if this is a normal thing porn addicts go through. is it common to feel like you need more than one person when actively consumming porn? is it a regular urge?
any insight would be appreciated since i very much feel like my world is ending
(obviously nothing wrong with nonmono its just a deal breaker for me and we discussed it pre-dating)