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I was expecting more ppl to have more enemies…

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You know what Tolstoy says: Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. I think we can extend this logic to our friends and our belothed.

A loved one is there when you need them, fun to hang out with, and probably smells good, but every enemy you have could be hated for any number of reasons. Just ugly, annoying, betrayed you, slept with you, etc., etc.

I have many. Where do I begin?

🎀 My 9th grade art teacher

I started beefing with her because she mispronounced the shape “sphere” as “spear.” It’s one of those sorts of grievances where you just already don’t like the person, and so your body simply chooses something to react against.

The big grievance I had against her came when we were learning about the color wheel. We did a collage. I feel like collages are like baby pics/pet pics. You always love your own, but when you see someone else’s, you’re like… oh, um, okay.

So I ofc thought mine was incredibly beautiful. But I got 10 points knocked off because I did my colors counterclockwise instead of clockwise. I fought with the teacher, like I went up to her desk feeling very imperious, and said that it was absurd that this made me lose points. She said that that was what the instructions were. And I was like, damn bitch, is this math class or art? Like why does it actually matter which way the color wheel goes?

She didn’t have a satisfactory answer, and so I went to grumble to my group of friends. I said something to the effect of “this teacher makes me understand why people shoot up the school.”

So then later in the day, I got sent to the vice principal’s office. Usually you only went there if you were caught doing a full-frontal hug or wearing too-short shorts, but I lowk made a terroristic threat. They let me off the hook since I was in the honors classes ig. But later in the week we did a school invader lockdown. My classmates were like, “ugh, who would ever threaten the school…” and I was sitting there like, “uhh… yeah ahah… 0.0 … who indeed.”

(This was the only time I got in trouble with a teacher or admin my entire scholastic career, except being reprimanded once or twice to put my phone away.)

🎀 G-ry

This was a guy I went to college with. Cop’s kid. He was openly into feet. He didn’t really talk about it, but if there were girls in our party group that got too wasted, he would start touching and sometimes licking their feet. I think he podally molested me about half a dozen times over the years.

🎀 C-llin

Another guy in my college party group. Competitive Smash player. He and his hot but cripplingly ADHD gf were trying out an open relationship and making moves on me and my bf at the time.

C-llin said he and his gf wanted to sext about me, and that they were kinky. I was like alright, bc I wanted to touch his girlfriend’s boobs — and she’d also talked many times about how big his hog was.

Sooo, he wrote a one-thousand-word erotica about me wherein he roofied and raped me. Awkward!

But luckily, I do not need to seek vengeance. His body is betraying him. He has that bone disease where he is gonna slowly lock up over time… sort of like how in the erotica, he tied my unconscious body up so I couldn’t move. Fitting!

🎀 german terf

This is one of the people I encountered on TERF Discord servers. I got into an argument with her about engagement rings. There were a lot of women in a comment section talking about how they only wanted cheap engagement rings. I said that they were being very catty towards women who wanted nice engagement rings and also being like self-effacing. And she was like, “Oh, so since I’m poor and will have to propose to my girlfriend with a cheaper ring, that means I’m a terrible person?”

This argument lasted for hours as I defended women’s right to be materialistic, and she accused me of defendin pickmes. Something incredibly stupid basically.

Who would have known that people in extremist political groups were not such pleasant people?

🎀 canadian terf

Left the previous TERF Discord server mentioned after getting into an argument with someone about pit bulls. Created her own. Just talked about the TV show The Boys, transgenders, and about how Israel had a right to defend itself.

I didn’t like Israel or The Boys after season 1, so… I honestly can’t explain why I hated her so much. I just did.

🎀 P-ul

I was hanging out with my group of friends and this guy pulls up. I thought I was safe because he had a girlfriend and he was talking about proposing to her. He asked for my feminine counsel on how much to spend on an engagement ring (I guess this is a motif amongst my enemies), and then started groping my thigh and trying to get me to go home with him. He’d be like, “Is 7 thousand enough?” then creep his hand closer to my pussy.

🎀 Someone who considers me to be their enemy:

I met this guy one time. I think he doesn’t like me because I clocked him as an Israeli. (He was like, I just moved back to America, but I don’t wanna say where I’m from. And I was like, oh, Israel? (He also looked Jewish.))

He started going on about gender abolition. I told him to shut the fuck up because women have been second-class citizens for millennia and a few decades of “equality” haven’t evened that out, and also men cannot get pregnant nor breastfeed, so “gender” only meant so much compared to sex.

Even like six months later, he apparently still complains about me to a mutual friend!

🎀 Conclusion:

Seems like the theme is men commit sexual misconduct whereas women get into petty arguments. This might be sexist, but I also honestly don’t remember any petty arguments I’ve gotten into with any men — or else the men I would dislike for getting into petty arguments with are superseded in my memory by the men who have been rapey. E.g. honestly I wouldn’t remember that argument with the Israeli at all were it not for my friend telling me several months later that he still harbored grievances against me… (I also won the argument hands-down… so like).

And also, I think female intrasexual aggression can be very passive-aggressive. It is often channeled through petty arguments over like Israel and engagement rings. So something that looks neutral on the surface can indeed be basically unbridled hatred — and the plausible deniability baked in of “oh well all I said is that I think women who say that are pick-mes” is part of the crazy-making.

And so you might look at the list and think a man groping you “should” be more memorable and traumatic, but I think someone being flagrantly aggressive to you is also hurtful, even if the way they were doing it is technically socially sanctioned (teacher exerting authority over you, passive aggression through arguments).

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