GNC lesbian gf objectified and harassed
I’m a fem-leaning lesbian and my gf is a GNC masc-leaning lesbian, both in our thirties. I’m so mad right now, and upset for her. She’s a member of this expensive gym/club that’s open 24 hours and is often there until very late, 3 or 4 am some nights, working remotely in their lounge area. There’s a new night security guard, according to my gf they’re AMAB and “queer” looking. This guard approached her at 10 pm and sat next to her as she settled in to work and started peppering her with questions. My gf entertained it for a moment but had to three times say, “I have a work deadline I need to focus on and can’t talk right now.” Each time the person completely ignored her and continued talking, and after the third time told her she was pretty. They said they were 18. After repeatedly having her boundary ignored, they finally left and sat at their post across the room, and STARED at her while she tried to work. She got up to move and they called her over and asked for her phone number, she said no I have a gf and left the area. She called me from the bathroom shaken and upset, embarrassed that someone so young made her feel so unsafe.
I can’t tell you how often strange people approach her, she’s approached way more by creepy men in public than I am. Men who comment on her appearance and make suggestive comments. Then there are young “queer” girls who fetishize her, crave her validation and proximity to her to absorb her legitimately gay social capital and validate their identities. I am so disgusted by how gnc lesbians are preyed on and treated like objects.