Should I move back to the city so my husband can theoretically be happier?
My husband and I have been married 14 years and have two kids in elementary school. We live in a suburb that is close to my work and while daily life with kids can be stressful, I always thought we were happy. I work long hours in the healthcare field and he is mostly a stay-at-home dad with part-time jobs throughout the year (usually working 2 days per week in the nearby city). He has become depressed recently and has thankfully started meds and therapy for this. He also is growing bored and resentful of the suburbs and thinks that a lot of his depression stems from our geographic location. He has complained about the suburbs for years, but I always thought he was willing to tough it out for the kids. I think he feels lonely here and that eco-anxiety is also getting to him with all the car-dependence and environmentally unfriendly turf grass lawns, etc. He is also thinking that he wants to work more now that our kids are getting older, but that his job prospects are limited here. Social life here seems to revolve around church and sports and our family is neither religious or athletic. Long story short, he wants to move back to the nearby city, where we lived before having kids.
Personally, I like my life here. I like our house and large lot where we have gardens and old growth tress, and we are living quite frugally with a 3% interest rate mortgage on a very nice house we bought before the pandemic. I'm cool with just hanging out at home reading/doing hobbies and don't really need much for outside entertainment. My kids don't want to move either because this is the only life they've ever known and they have friends in the neighborhood.
We have started looking at houses in the city and I get depressed when we go through houses that are half the size, 100+ years old, and will cost us twice as much in our monthly mortgage payment. Schools in the city are okay, but not as well ranked as the ones our kids are currently in.
I have voiced all of my hesitations to moving, but my husband is rather dead set on it and thinks our whole family's life will be enriched if we move to the city. Any advice on how we can get through this without one of us resenting the other or risking divorce? Should I take a (rather expensive) leap of faith and just try to make the best of city life or try to convince my husband to stay in a place he apparently hates...