u/lameazz87

How do you all get over the nervousness or the block with doing skills checkoffs?

I have been a CNA for YEARS. Our first skill to check off is making a bed 🤦🏻‍♀️ and im struggling because we have to remember all of these steps technically by the paper word for word. Im older, perimenopause, and ive been doing this for years in a "real world" scenario mostly in crappy LTC facilities.

I can go in and make a bed just fine irl. I dont struggle once I get to the ACTUAL making of the bed part. I struggle with remembering to verbalize EVERY LITTLE THING such as saying exactly what my assessment will me, my plan, then the steps of lowering the raising the bed, lowering the rails, locking the bed (they have us doing this before making the bed.)

I know it i just get nervous when its NOT a real scenario. I did this when I worked in the hospital too. When I checked off in my +4s I was so nervous, but when I actually did the skills on actual people I did great and did them correctly, because its a person and my brain just says "hey this is serious." Im not reciting a piece of paper to be graded I'm actually doing it.

So I start nursing school in a few weeks. Im 38yo.

I can NOT afford to not work during school. Im going to be going to class and clinicals Mon-Fri 8-3:30. We will get one day off somewhere in there but they haven't told us where yet and we start school in less than 2 weeks. My current job is going to let me stay on PRN, but we only work unto 5pm, no weekends or nights. I need to make more money from SOMEWHERE. Ive looked at other CNA jobs and applied to hospitals but no one has called and no nursing homes are hiring PRN only. They want full time help only.

Ive been a CNA for years in various settings, nursing homes, hospitals, rehabs, and hospice. Ive joked with my coworkers how we would make great waitresses (with the elderly people screaming at us demeaning us) because we already do that job, plus being maids, plus housekeeping, plus our CNA duties like bathing and vital signs ect. So i started thinking maybe I could be waitress, but idk WHERE??

I live in a SMALL town, with the biggest major city over an hour away and the closest kinda big city at min 45 mins away. In my town we have a waffle house, an Applebee's, some Mexican restaurants, and thats it. Im older and not knockout beautiful so idk where I'd be able to get hired on at my age making great money.

Any advice.

Question. Im filling out my medical forms for school. We start in a few weeks. My doctor put "hypothyroidism" as what I am being treated for but I actually had thyroid cancer and a total thyroidectomy.

These forms as a lot of questions I do not feel comfortable sharing because on paper it may seem like I couldn't do my job as a nurse, but ive been a CNA for years and years and Ive done fine.

It asks about back problems, joint problems, or musculoskeletal issues. I get steroid injections in my back yes but I dont want to tell them. It asks about hospitalizations. Ive had ny thyroid and gallbladder removed but I dont want them to think ima have to rush to get organs removed lol.

It asks about cancer. Yes I had it but I had it removed and now ive been good. It even asks if I VAPE!

Do I have to tell them all of this. Will they fond out if I dont?

So I am starting school for LPN in the fall. I tried to do RN when I was 23 but I got pregnant with my son, had to drop school, and had to begin working in a factory for a long time to provide for myself and my son.

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Finally ive been accepted and my son is now old enough he can be home and not need child care, and have waited long enough for this opportunity I HAVE to do this.

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My issue is i STILL need to pay all of my bills while going to school. Ive reduced them as much as possible, refinanced my vehicle to reduce my loan on it, cut down on all unnecessary expenses, budgeting and planning meals, ect.

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I got accepted into all of the nursing programs I applied to, but they only accepted me into the day programs 😭 so that will leave me going to class and clinical 8am-3:30pm 4-5 days a week. My current job is Mon-Fri and our workday ends at 5pm. I do hospice in home care and i absolutely LOVE IT. I dont want to ever do anything else, but I cant keep surviving on CNA pay. This are too expensive and I need more money.

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My job has said I can go PRN, but CNAs dont work on weekends with my company. The thought of having to go to school then having to work 12 or 16 hours at a hospital or nursing home on the weekends is so depressing to me. I dont know how I'd ever get to study. I looked into regular home health but all of them only pay up to $16 an hour in my area. I simply can not make ends meet on that working only 2 or 3 days a week. Plus ive applied to hospital weekender positions and heard absolutely nothing back. Nursing homes dont seem to be wanting to hire PRN or part time here.

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I thought about taking on a few people just private care myself. I know a few caregivers who do this for my hospice clients and they say its the way to go. However I am afraid of the liability side. Does anyone in here do this? Do you carry malpractice and or general liability insurance? I already know how to do my own taxes, because ive done this before owning a business selling body butters and resell items, so the taxes isnt a big deal.

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It just seems like it would be worth it to do private care myself, decide my own hours, and get all the money, instead of working for a company and getting paid $15 an hour and have to follow their schedule.

Does anyone else experience this online when you post in any sub other than a neurodivergent sub? I feel like things that SHOULD be normal, common senses things are taken like im a complete butthole.

An example: I posted in a sub asking how homehealth/ Healthcare is in other parts of the US and if it is different because im from the south and while i hate parts of living here, people are genuinely pretty courteous to me when I am helping them out with their relatives.

I am a Hospice CNA and I travel taking care of terminally ill patients. I mentioned how ive noticed a pattern of people from the northern states who move down here seem to treat us CNAs SOOOO badly when we enforce a boundary with them. It could also just be that they are entitled and nothing to do with geographical regions, but that was the point of my question.

My job gives us a lot of autonomy and we make our own schedules. When I get a new patient on my schedule I wont move my schedule of established patients around to fit where a new patients family DEMANDS of me. Some are ok but a few get super upset and call my supervisor on me. Idk because I will NOT rearrange my established people and my schedule. That is my boundary. I always give them notice and I always tell them options of when I can come bit they still throw a FIT that a CNA wont bend to their demands. My supervisor is fine with it and says its ok to have boundaries and families and patients have to respect us.

However these people in these subs say its ridiculous that our management let's CNAs pick their hours, they act like im rude for having boundaries, or like its something wrong.

My company has an extremely low turnover rate. People just dont quit. We are treated great and have excellent benefits. We get holidays off, weekends off, dont have to go to work in inclement weather, and if it have an emergency with my kid or myself my manager cares and tells me family is more important, work can wait.

I feel like these people have subscribed to heavily to the corporate garbage and the way Healthcare heavily abuses us, especially us CNAs.

Let me preface this by saying I am NOT trying to say ALL PEOPLE from certain areas of the US behave this way. I want to ask if ALF/ Home Health Care is SO vastly different from the south in northern states that would warrant this type of behavior.. or if i am just encountering very entitled family members.

So I work as a hospice CNA that travels to homes and facilities. We work Monday through Friday. We get assigned a case load each day/ week and its up to us to make our own schedule the way it fits our patients, travel route, personal preference (like I take my son to school so I start a little late until summer), ect.

When people pass away or are discharged due to medical ineligiblity, they will give us new patients that we have to fit in. I dont move my established patients or families around for new ones, because i have A LOT of people with dementia/alzheimer's and their routines are important to them and their families.

I have one ALF facility in particular that I visit where the patients are fairly wealthy. They all seem to be non southern natives lol. Their families aren't either. I have a VERY difficult time with their families. These people struggle with the loss of their independence and DO NOT want my help woth ADLs and a bath. They absolutely REFUSE it. They dont mind and actually enjoy my companionship. Ive had excellent talks with them, but they wont let me HELP. Their families DEMAND i come at all hours of the day and force their loved one to bathe. When I tell them I can not move my other appointments around to accommodate this, and I only have certain spots open for appointments, they get so angry. They have called my supervisor, called my nurse, called they facility director 😂. I had to tell my supervisor i refused to go see one and ask her to remove her from me due to her family member trying to consistently get me in trouble for holding boundaries with her.

Yesterday I got a new admit, I called to set up a time, she answers with an attitude. I introduced myself and my title. She immediately TOLD me what time she needed me there. I told her I couldnt do that because I had appointments already set that morning, but i could work them in around lunch or after. She became irate, said "that just wouldnt work!" and said she would call back. She then called my office and said she no longer wanted to speak with me because i wouldnt accommodate her schedule. she requested a new CNA.

I had already emailed my nurse and team manager about the incident and let them know, because I suspected this would happen. My nurse called me and told me this was the spouse of the patient and she was very difficult, and that she was from up north. She told me she tried to explain the CNAs can not rearrange their schedules and we have to schedule new admits where we have openings.

What im asking is this just entitled people or do things operate differently up north?

Am I being treated this way because I am a CNA with boundaries and they think I shouldn't be ABLE to say no? To be fair, most people i encounter are either poor or middle class so they seem to be understanding and kind to CNAs and service people. People from up north also tend to have more money here and be in a higher class, so idk. This is also the only time ive done home health. Ive done this job since around September last year and this is a pattern...

Um 38 (F), ill be 39 in October. For the last few months I have felt "off." My memory has gotten much worse. My medication doesnt seem to work, I felt very scattered, I have started gaining weight, I feel tired.

Then this month my period was a week late. It has been getting shorted. I started freaking out because i thought menopause started much later.

Also my emotions are ALL OVER THE PLACE. It is a nightmare. Ill go from being ragefully angry, then crying. The be ok. Then think about something and im crying again. Its AWFUL.

I cant get an apt with my gyno until June 2, but any advice until then? None of my usual things that pull me out of a funk work. I usually focus on a special interest of mine, but all of them feel so flat and uninteresting right now 😭.

Location: North Carolina

In 2014 I was charged with simple assault and assault on a child under 12. Both charges were dismissed w/o leave by DA.

This was an ongoing issue with a woman who had been stalking me, I attempted to get a restraining order against her but due to her connections and this being a small town my restraining order way denied.

She eventually caught me coming out of the gym one night with her sister and attacked me. I pepper sprayed them, then called the cops to report the incident. Apparently they had their child with them and told the cop I pepper sprayed the child as well. The cops didnt believe them.

I filed the charges first, but somehow she was allowed to file cross warrants against me. I lawyered up fast, was arrested and fingerprinted due to the child assault. But it was inevitably thrown out because it was obvious I didnt do anything.

I am about to start nursing school. Since I have never been in any other trouble aside from a traffic ticket. I wasnt this off my record. I have the Petition and Order of Expuntion paper, but im confused about about it. I cant afford a lawyer. Can anyone help?

The file numbers. They are different file numbers but I went to court for both together. Do i put both on the same paper in the defense description?

The petition to expunged section also depends on if I put both or one on the same paper. If I put one, do I just leave that blank?

Same with findings of facts?

Thanks