Am I the as*hole?
Hello everyone , I'm 26F I'll tell you my story very quickly and please give me your pov.
So i knew this guy on social media 34 yo
We texted for about 2 months , we liked each other initially.
Since i am looking for a serious rs , i told him that i reallyy like to take my time , step by step. He said that he understands this , so we slowly passed from texting to phone calls and everything felt great.
We've seen each other irl after 3 months , since we live far away , it wasn't a date he just picked me up from the airport but it was cool.
After that , he said that he really likes my mentality, and he wants us to go further i said me too , we planned a date ( which coincide with my parents visiting me ) I've I've told him before if my parents came to visit we need to change the date he said no problem I'll be back after one month.
Few days passed he asked for a phone call i said i cannot because i was with my friends and i just couldn't respond , here where it all started he said he doesn't feel my femininity , that a man needs a woman's touch , and i don't give him what he wants. It hurt me just , but i told him that since nothing is really official between us i just can't give you everything.
Then suddenly things changed between us , he never asked to call me , or to see me and the discussion between us just became casual.
I blamed myself, i said maybe i was too hard with him , so i tried making things together , texting him saying that i really missed our talks , but he didn't really react to this.
I couldn't handle this anymore so after 2 months of casual discussions, i told him that i noticed that things have changed between us and we don't enjoy talking as we used to , he said yes I've noticed and i think it's because of me , I am questioning my life decisions and I don't know why I'm overthinking simple things .
I said it's fine take care of yourself, he said thanks.
And i never texted him after this, the thing is he keeps texting me time to time, and the discussion is boring as if he was forced to talk to me. ( WHY DOES HE KEEP TEXTING ME!!))
Should i tell him for a second time that i don't like our relation anymore ?
And i am still overthinking if i did something wrong , was it because of me ? I really can't get into a relationship fast i need some time to adapt .