What can I do with my bf “out of sight out of mind” when he forgets I exist
Me 19F and my bf 22M adhd medicated are in a long distance relationship for about a year now, we are both medical students so life gets busy and we only meet once a year because of long distances.
I always has a problem with him disappearing and not replying to me for at least 2 weeks every now and then, then continue to talk like normal he say he gets busy with school, work ect. And that he have very bad object permeability, he always apologizes that he hurt me and say he’s sorry for moments that he makes me feel unappreciated, We tried to fixed it be setting an alarm to remind him to text me and that worked for a month but then the pattern returned, last time I confronted him about it again he told me that this is his curse, and it’s a problem with him and not about how much he cares about me.
I want to know if it’s a symptom of adhd that he can’t change or just a personality trait of him, especially that we are planning to get engaged and move in together and he tells me that this will solve the problem.
+ how can I accept the out of sight out of mind without taking it personally