u/lateralligator11

How exactly does someone become 'circumstantially childfree'? I always thought that if you want children but can't have them due to external factors, you are considered 'childless.' To me, 'childfree' meant knowing from the start that you simply do not want kids. I've always wanted nothing to do with kids, be it as a father (I can be an excellent deadbeat father though), or a mother (a good one but a super unhappy one).

I have a friend whose situation sits right on that line: She says she would be indifferent to having a child if she could experience parenthood as a father, but since she's a woman, that specific dynamic isn't possible for her. Because of that reality, she says she has decided not to have children. Does this put her in the traditional 'childfree' category, or does it make her 'circumstantially childfree'?

Hey!

So new manager. They're really nice and patient.

But I cannot with their constant flip flopping-we would have agreed on one thing the day before, I'd have done the same only to be quizzed why I didn't do something else? Asking me to go ahead and do tasks and somehow finish them (I'm new to the team) when they themselves don't know how or where to get the info from?

The industry I work in is very legacy driven, so, that doesn't help. A lot of institutional knowledge is lived, not readily acquired. I'm only a few weeks in. I appreciate that they're handling multiple things but I constantly feel like I never do enough and I don't know how to even flag it to them without sounding like I'm being super pedantic.

I can't record everything they say and play it back to them. I'm not too sure if recording everything in emails makes sense as well as a lot of our relationship is iterative stuff and they're also kinda new the whole set up. What should I even do 🥲