INFJ SAHM looking for a low-pressure, high-depth "kindred spirit" (Asynchronous / Zero-guilt)
Hi! I (28F) am navigating a period of life where my social energy is pretty low, but my craving for genuine, deep connection is very high. I love my family dearly, but I’m missing having a "kindred spirit" outlet... someone to exchange random thoughts, deep discussions, and everyday observations with, without the weight of modern social demands.
Wanting a zero expectations, zero guilt friendship. A dynamic where there is no penalty or apology needed for taking days (or even weeks) to reply, but where we also aren't afraid to text all day if we happen to both be in the mood. No "sorry for the late reply" OR "sorry for blowing you up" messages needed. No need to read every message 100x before we send it, because it is a comfortable environment with no expectations or judgment.
Most of the time, I prefer big ideas, human behavior, art, odd observations, or hyper-fixations of the week vs. surface-level “how is your day going” chit-chat. That being said… I am def not counting out small talk and/or getting to know each other if it flows that way naturally.
I like finding pattern and beauty in ordinary things. My active hobbies shift often, so I'm more interested in connecting with how you process the world rather than matching a checklist of identical hobbies. I do enjoy resonating with others and sharing common interests, but there are no dealbreakers in that area.
A little about me:
- I am very kind and friendly (as I am sure most of us people-pleasers here are, at least on the surface)!
- Married to my junior high sweetheart. While he is no doubt the literal LOML and my perfect soul mate in every way, we do not share the same deep level processing. Which I am grateful for! My strengths make up for his weaknesses and vice versa, we balance each other out very well.
- Have a threenager daughter who keeps us on our toes in all the best ways!
- College educated and hold a professional license, working full-time until about a year ago when I stepped into the SAHM life.
- I am a Christian and my faith is a central part of my life and values, but I am open minded, non-judgmental, and not political at all. I don't expect you to share my beliefs or worldviews - whether you're of a different faith, not religious, or somewhere in between, as long as there is mutual respect, we'll get along great!
- Depending on the day, my life includes: marriage, parenting, watching movies/binging series, thrifting, crafting, art appreciation, people watching, deep-dive research into random topics, learning about different cultures, creating home systems or planner layouts, re-designing or organizing parts of my home, fighting the urge to overconsume, finding ways to save money on a one income budget, nostalgia for pre-adulthood, and most currently working hard to discover, embrace, and be unapologetically me while unlearning people pleasing.
Hoping to create a space where we can share random middle of the night thoughts, celebrate small wins, or exchange random bits of information. We can start chatting on Reddit first, and I am of course open to other formats, but I love the idea of setting up a dedicated private Discord server for our friendship. Something that lets us drop quick thoughts or long essays at our own pace without giving out phone numbers right away. We could even have different channels for different vibes/convos so we can pick up different discussions at our own pace and capacity.
Bottom line: Craving and searching for a no judgment, no expectations kindred spirit to share whatever we want with each other 😊
If you're also an introverted or deep thinking soul looking for a genuine connection without the "always-on" performance, let’s be friends!!!