it feels so much worse. and of course there are many reasons: trump, wars, russia invasion in ukrain, covid backlash, climate in europe atm,

just wonder how others feel....

Hi INFJers

After decades of working different jobs because of my versatility since I just can't keep doing same job for long as I get bored or drained quickly,the longest I stayed in one job so far is 5 years and I am ready to pivot to an other job.

My concern or my question is that I reached a point where I deeply feel like I don't wanna work for anyone anymore.

Do you INFJ'S feel like we have to be our own boss to fulfill our purpose!?

What are the best careers path for infj considering AI

Appreciate your insights

God: “Time to make some INFJs!”

Me: “Sounds good. What traits would you like the INFJ to have, Lord?”

God: “Give them the vision and industriousness of ENTJs….”

Me: “Uh huh, vision and industriousness, roger that.” *scribbles on notepad*

God: “…and the constant self-doubt, anxiety, and overthinking of INFPs.”

Me: “But Lord, wouldn’t that mean they won’t be able to realize any of their visions?”

God: “Yes, but they’ll have the gift of escapism.”

Me: “So like meditation?”

God: “No, more like excessive daydreaming, dissociating, and zoning out randomly. They’ll even hold conversations with themselves, imagining fake scenarios that never actually happened.”

Me: “Wow, okay, what about empathy?”

God: “Yes.”

Me: “How empathetic do you want them, Lord?”

God: “Excessively so. They’ll feel everyone else’s emotions so much, they’ll lose clarity of their own.

Me: “But Lord, without internal clarity, they’ll struggle to express themselves and be ridiculously hard to understand.”

God: “Bingo! No one can figure them out, including themselves.”

Me: “Okay, they'll be like a giant emotional Rubik's Cube.”

God: “That's their struggle. To understand others like a book but be completely blind to themselves.”

Me: “Uh huh.” *continues scribbling on notepad*

God: “They’ll look for mirrors in people, objects, songs, poetry, religion, books, pets, but none of them give them the whole picture of who they are, leaving them confused.”

Me: “Wouldn’t all this self-doubt, blindness to self and excessive empathy turn them into people pleasers and allow others to take advantage of them easily?”

God: “Yes, to counteract that, we’ll give them strong intuitions!”

Me: “Ah, there it is, finally! Some mercy!”

God: “But their self-doubt makes them second-guess and dismiss their own intuitions most of the time, making their strong intuitions basically useless.”

Me: “Ohhh snap 😬*”*

God: “They’ll also be the type to fall in love simply because someone made eye contact with them and all of a sudden, they’re a soulmate.”

Me: “Oh my Lord, Lord. That means they’ll be obsessively clingy about anything that gives them the slightest validation/affirmation.”

God: “Exactly! Now let’s make them sensitive.”

Me: “Sure, how sensitive do you want them, Lord?”

God: “Someone texts them a ‘hi!’ in a neutral tone, and they’re writing poetry about betrayal.”

Me: “Oh my goodness, Lord. That’s very sensitive.”

God: “They’ll build connections that make others emotionally safe.”

Me: “I love it!”

God: “Then confuse that connection for romantic compatibility.”

Me: “Oh, Jesus!”

Me: “What would be their biggest weakness, Lord?”

God: “They’ll have the internal boundaries of a gnat and not even realize it. They’ll avoid conflict like the plague, even necessary ones, leading to resentment and bitterness. They’ll take everything personally, cut off people suddenly, refuse to live in the present, and can’t let go of negative things that happened to them half a century ago, be overcome by perfectionism and chronic overthinking…and…and….what is it?”

Me: “Sorry Lord, that’s a lot of weaknesses. We chose one major one for all the other types, Lord.”

God: “You’re right, I may have overdone myself there. Let’s balance out those aforementioned weaknesses by making them creative and giving them clairvoyance.

Me: “But Lord, as a person this would be the most conflicted, paradoxical human specimen ever to walk the earth.”

God: “Don’t worry, they’ll be rare, old souls. Their struggles will make them extraordinary humans, but only if they manage to get outside of their heads. Let’s make them!”

Me: “Yes, me Lord.”

And the INFJ was born.

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Stay INFJ ✌

I am and I wonder if its common for us to be on the spectrum. Granted it makes our weakness (fe) even weaker. Theres literally no winning.

Hi! I (28F) am navigating a period of life where my social energy is pretty low, but my craving for genuine, deep connection is very high. I love my family dearly, but I’m missing having a "kindred spirit" outlet... someone to exchange random thoughts, deep discussions, and everyday observations with, without the weight of modern social demands.

Wanting a zero expectations, zero guilt friendship. A dynamic where there is no penalty or apology needed for taking days (or even weeks) to reply, but where we also aren't afraid to text all day if we happen to both be in the mood. No "sorry for the late reply" OR "sorry for blowing you up" messages needed. No need to read every message 100x before we send it, because it is a comfortable environment with no expectations or judgment.

Most of the time, I prefer big ideas, human behavior, art, odd observations, or hyper-fixations of the week vs. surface-level “how is your day going” chit-chat. That being said… I am def not counting out small talk and/or getting to know each other if it flows that way naturally.

I like finding pattern and beauty in ordinary things. My active hobbies shift often, so I'm more interested in connecting with how you process the world rather than matching a checklist of identical hobbies. I do enjoy resonating with others and sharing common interests, but there are no dealbreakers in that area.

A little about me:

• I am very kind and friendly (as I am sure most of us people-pleasers here are, at least on the surface)!
• Married to my junior high sweetheart. While he is no doubt the literal LOML and my perfect soul mate in every way, we do not share the same deep level processing. Which I am grateful for! My strengths make up for his weaknesses and vice versa, we balance each other out very well.
• Have a threenager daughter who keeps us on our toes in all the best ways!
• College educated and hold a professional license, working full-time until about a year ago when I stepped into the SAHM life.
• I am a Christian and my faith is a central part of my life and values, but I am open minded, non-judgmental, and not political at all. I don't expect you to share my beliefs or worldviews - whether you're of a different faith, not religious, or somewhere in between, as long as there is mutual respect, we'll get along great!
• Depending on the day, my life includes: marriage, parenting, watching movies/binging series, thrifting, crafting, art appreciation, people watching, deep-dive research into random topics, learning about different cultures, creating home systems or planner layouts, re-designing or organizing parts of my home, fighting the urge to overconsume, finding ways to save money on a one income budget, nostalgia for pre-adulthood, and most currently working hard to discover, embrace, and be unapologetically me while unlearning people pleasing.

Hoping to create a space where we can share random middle of the night thoughts, celebrate small wins, or exchange random bits of information. We can start chatting on Reddit first, and I am of course open to other formats, but I love the idea of setting up a dedicated private Discord server for our friendship. Something that lets us drop quick thoughts or long essays at our own pace without giving out phone numbers right away. We could even have different channels for different vibes/convos so we can pick up different discussions at our own pace and capacity.

Bottom line: Craving and searching for a no judgment, no expectations kindred spirit to share whatever we want with each other 😊

If you're also an introverted or deep thinking soul looking for a genuine connection without the "always-on" performance, let’s be friends!!!

 

Yall know you would all have been on the chopping block right? Talking about intuition and how you can make other people feel good, thats basically healing. Your house would have been the one there by the edge of the forest because you are not people people. And then theres the whole knowing things you shouldn’t know.

Hello fellow infj’s! Sorry, I know this is long, I just would like some advice. Ive never had any real friends. Especially not a best friend. Im always second best or just another acquaintance. I told myself all summer that this next year of high school would be different. I’d meet awesome people, who see me for me and enjoy my company. But after today which was my first day back, I remembered why I don’t have friends. I’m so incredibly anxious, and I can’t hold any kind of conversation. When I’m super overwhelmed and stressed out, I get really emotionless. Does anyone else experience that? It’s so weird, I just get really reserved and give one word answers despite screaming at myself to be normal. I also feel like sometimes I have a resting annoyed/angry face? Idk if I actually do because I obviously can’t see myself, but I always feel like I do. It also doesn’t help that I learned that all my “friends” were hanging out together literally all summer and I never even got a single text. I understand that the phone works both ways but they barely even talk to me when we are in school so why should I try so hard for a relationship that the other person doesn’t even care about? And those “friends” never seem to take me seriously. Everything I say is either laughed at, blatantly ignored, or brushed off. Why does everyone pretend I don’t exist? And the people I know that don’t do that feel like they are just pitying me for being the shy quiet guy. All of our interactions feel really performative on their end. They all feel fake. I even asked someone (who I thought was my better friends) what their class schedule was this morning and they quickly said they didn’t remember and kinda brushed me off. which is fair and I just went along, but literally 2 minutes later I heard him telling someone else his entire schedule with zero hesitation. And it’s not like he checked it online or anything because he doesn’t have a phone or computer. What’s wrong with me? Why is it so hard for me to make friends? Does anyone have any advice/experience with any of this? Also it may be important to note that I think I could be an intj. I always get infj on all of the tests I do but I really relate to intjs and their experiences online so maybe consider that idk. Thanks in advance for whoever replies. I just want to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice or just know I’m not alone in this.

Hello my friends. And thank you for taking the time to read this. My name is Melvis, I'm 21 years old base here in London. I spend most of my days concern about the world. And the people. I like to read books, I like to love people and understand them differently. Gained their knowledge know what makes them happy. So I can make them happy. So I would know what makes them happy, but obviously it makes me very open to being emotional within these days. I also spend days getting knowledge about humanity. I also gained knowledge about the destruction that has the idea of war. My brain cannot accept it. It cannot accept the fact that people are dying every day. It doesn't want to I have accept that. I have accept that my brain wants to focus on changing the world somehow in some way I don't know how to obviously I would have done it by now, but I've been reading these Reddit messages online. And learning a lot from you guys, we have a lot in common. Obviously, you feel things other people can't understand and the concept of war is very different. Ironically, I also figured out 3 out of five people who are like me in my friend group. Take this, as you will are normally tank mains in video games, we like to protect people. I want to protect everybody on this Earth, Every child, every man, every woman, every animal, every tree. I'm gonna protect the Solar System if I have to. I protect them from meteoroids, I protect them from whatever the universe offer. I would protect everybody only if I can, but I don't know i sound Silly, do I sound like a Weird guy obsessed with superheroes? I mean, I did grow up. Watching he man absolutely love him matter of fact, I still watch him in original version. and I think that contribute to the fact that I refused the idea of war. I want to talk things through. You can see this, by the way, I handle situations and or my relationships with families, During a disagreement. I say "I understand that you're upset. You have every right to be upset. So allow you to be upset, but we must come to an agreement." That's normally how my conversations will go. I want to love everybody, and I do love everybody. I love every single Atom, literally, every single atom, and I feel like sometimes I sit in my room, and I feel like I can feel the world hurting. I can feel it every single pain. I can feel when someone is in an immense distress. I can feel when someone's the happiest man alive. I can feel the most extremist emotions in my head. All at once, and I don't know how to describe it, but it makes me want to change the world.It makes me want to save people. The world is ours Masters of Earth. How can I change the world more effectively is it through my knowledge and emotions? Will you join me?

I have been typed many time ENFP across the ywars and I can say it was quite correct but since a year ago, I had a strong spiritual experience and since then life has... changed. I am still me, but as a Soul/Consciousness and love not a personality, and while I integrate I notice that it's as if my personality has reshape itself into an infj type.

In itself, my functions stays the same but I have a very developped Ni that it is easy to think I am Ni dom, I've done so much inner self work due to important sufferings (it was that or a very dark path). And it has been a lonely path. And yet, i feel like through posts and meme on here, i really relate for the first time to people. The ego is still shaped from early memories and maybe genetics but it is not motionless. It grows in different ways, but the first learned behavior that the psyche hold is still the first type.

To me type don't change but functions do grows differently and this experience has apparently helped me grow some part that makes me appear infj from the outside. But of course, the enfp still is stronger at core(heh).

Just wanted to share :)