Why is it impossible for me to make friends as an infj?
Hello fellow infj’s! Sorry, I know this is long, I just would like some advice. Ive never had any real friends. Especially not a best friend. Im always second best or just another acquaintance. I told myself all summer that this next year of high school would be different. I’d meet awesome people, who see me for me and enjoy my company. But after today which was my first day back, I remembered why I don’t have friends. I’m so incredibly anxious, and I can’t hold any kind of conversation. When I’m super overwhelmed and stressed out, I get really emotionless. Does anyone else experience that? It’s so weird, I just get really reserved and give one word answers despite screaming at myself to be normal. I also feel like sometimes I have a resting annoyed/angry face? Idk if I actually do because I obviously can’t see myself, but I always feel like I do. It also doesn’t help that I learned that all my “friends” were hanging out together literally all summer and I never even got a single text. I understand that the phone works both ways but they barely even talk to me when we are in school so why should I try so hard for a relationship that the other person doesn’t even care about? And those “friends” never seem to take me seriously. Everything I say is either laughed at, blatantly ignored, or brushed off. Why does everyone pretend I don’t exist? And the people I know that don’t do that feel like they are just pitying me for being the shy quiet guy. All of our interactions feel really performative on their end. They all feel fake. I even asked someone (who I thought was my better friends) what their class schedule was this morning and they quickly said they didn’t remember and kinda brushed me off. which is fair and I just went along, but literally 2 minutes later I heard him telling someone else his entire schedule with zero hesitation. And it’s not like he checked it online or anything because he doesn’t have a phone or computer. What’s wrong with me? Why is it so hard for me to make friends? Does anyone have any advice/experience with any of this? Also it may be important to note that I think I could be an intj. I always get infj on all of the tests I do but I really relate to intjs and their experiences online so maybe consider that idk. Thanks in advance for whoever replies. I just want to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice or just know I’m not alone in this.