u/lemonrainshield

I have taken my cat to the i35 animal hospital at market place 3x this week. I’ll share my full complaint below, but the gist is, I’m done with them and I want to take him to the best hospital I can for actual treatment. It’s cool if it’s also in NB, but I’ll go SA, ATX, pretty much anywhere I can drive in a day to just get him taken care of.

The first time they did incomplete bloodwork (admitted they should’ve ordered to see more than they did), gave him antibiotics, sent him home with sub q fluids, and told me to wait two days before following up. I said he already hasn’t eaten for two days and I’m concerned waiting that long to follow up but they assured that was best. I called the next day because he was definitely worse off and I wanted to be readmitted and they said the same, keep waiting. Sure enough, he turns yellow and finally they’re like “that’s serious, come in” so we do bloodwork, I mention I’d like to keep it around $300 that day and I’ll have more funds the next day, or if it’s an emergency, I have family I can lean on. Sure enough, it’s an emergency and he needs to be inpatient. So I tell them let’s do everything we need, I just need him to be okay. I signed off on an $1000 bill, he gets fluids, meds, etc. until I have to pick him up. I come back at 7am, I sign off on an $800 bill to continue fluids, meds, and have rechecks until they close again at 11. They told me I’d be called with updates when their 3pm shift comes in and does the first recheck. I don’t get a call, finally I call myself, and they say oh, he’s ready. So I go to get him but ask to speak with a doctor. Instead I get a completely incompetent tech that told me wrong information about medicine I showed him in my hands and obviously just said anything to answer any other questions. I go to check out, bill is less than $200. They did fluids only, AM only, no meds, no recheck, they just had no real backing for why they unhooked him early and they never informed me that they just decided to not give him any meds all morning like I agreed to. I get an offhand comment that they know money is an issue so it’d be more ideal if he got those things but they saved me money this way. I am still livid. I SIGNED an $800 estimate agreeing to the FULL treatment. They did not contact me with their decision change and made sure I consented to this “favor” at all. I’m 22 weeks pregnant, I can’t sleep, I’m constantly stressed, he’s been traumatized and I wanted him to actually get better instead of another freaking bandaid fix that’s going to cost more down the line. All they could say was, well call us in the morning if he doesn’t improve on his own. Well I can already tell you he isn’t improving. He’s in pain, lethargic, won’t eat, and I’m afraid his liver is going to get even worse now. Cats die from their liver very easily and he’s barely a year old he has a lot of life left in him.

There are so many posts about divorce during pregnancy but seemingly more about just not being able to stand your husband while you’re pregnant. I miss the hell out of him when I’m not with him and sometimes even when I am with him but we can’t seem to be able to talk long at all before one just pisses off the other and sometimes it leads into huge arguments. My emotions are so out of whack and obviously that doesn’t help and puts me at a lot of fault too.

Where is the line? How does it get better? Do I really have 20 more weeks of tension before any chance? Can we survive that? I can’t actually imagine raising our son not as a single unit and it feels so awful now but I still have hope for the near future. I wanted 1-2 more kids after this but I’m getting doubtful all this emotional dysregulation can be done again.

So I’m in a paid internship right now that is sponsored through my company but my work is majority off sight with a different set of leadership who coordinate my various experience hours and oversee my progress. During this, I became pregnant, and did not want to tell anybody but felt I had to at least tell them because I’m not typically allowed any off days but I have doctors appointments so of course that demanded some off time and alternative make up hours.

Now I’m on my final projects and transitioning back to work and I’m being met with a strange tension bordering hostility. My coordinator had been helping me navigate this “unexplained hostility” for going on 3 weeks of this treatment, and finally today I found out that she had told my leadership that I’m pregnant. Then blamed my lack of transparency in the matter for all of the tension rather than her speaking about my medical condition without my permission or ability to be present and speak / advocate for myself.

And to back up a little here, I told my HR before I even told my coordinator, and told her I didn’t feel comfortable telling my boss until I returned to work, which HR fully supported and even said that technically I could have more time than that if I wanted, I only needed to give 1 month heads up for needed paperwork and getting in my leave.

The worst part is, she disclosed my pregnancy as a reason to request special treatment on my behalf (to not have to travel to a further location for a couple of weeks), which I did not ask for and was not aware she was going to try to do. So my bosses are questioning my commitment, my capabilities, and my integrity as a result. I could have foreseen this response and would have declined any special treatment if I knew, especially with pregnancy as a reason. I’ve witnessed and heard of too many convenient layoffs to want to give them any ammo.

I feel completely violated, gaslit by my coordinator, and like they’ve handed my boss the perfect excuse to blame my “poor communication” rather than my pregnancy for her treatment, leaving me without recourse on any potential discrimination.

I’ve always had someone in my life to do them for me but now I need to have a shop do them for me. I might be willing to learn a bit later in life but I’m pregnant and not comfortable getting under a lifted car or laying on my back at this stage.

Any good local recommendations? Idc paying the standard pricing I just want the trustworthy route. Also, is there an advantage to being loyal to a specific shop?

My two red flags are

A) she is not calling herself an RD but she is allowing others to call her that when referring clients to her and she is not correcting them so she is receiving clients under false pretenses and imo knowingly doing this counts as fraud just the same

B) she is practicing MNT for gestational diabetes and clearly doesn’t understand the actual nuances of GDM and isn’t even credentialed as a CDE/CDCES

Another red flag that I don’t think I can report but disturbs me is that she pushes consuming beef liver in lieu of prenatal vitamins which can easily be teratogenic.

This is CO, USA. I tried googling how to report but I’m just running in circles instead of getting anywhere on it.