Need hope for love after 30
Hi loves. I just went through the canon lesbian event of dating for the first time after a long term relationship and getting my heart dragged through the mud by a 3 month summer fling. She was avoidant and realized she didn’t have the capacity and I wasn’t willing to lessen my needs or emotions to keep a connection. It hurts a lot. Especially dating as a neurodivergent person, I lead with my heart and experience big emotions that can be really disregulating (hello, limerance).
But I wanted to put a reminder here for anyone else going through the same thing: what we give doesn’t always return to us, but what we give is always what we are. Don’t let the world harden your heart. It’s okay to be a lover girl and lead with intention and consideration. The right person will cherish that and match it. Protect your boundaries, and know that’s okay to feel scared to be vulnerable. It’s what we do with that fear that matters.
Anyway, I have a favor to ask. I’m going to be stepping away from dating and focus on loving myself now, but I’d love a light at the end of the tunnel.
For those who found their long term partners after age 30 - can you share how you met and any sage wisdom for those on this journey? 🫶🏽
Sending so much love to you all!