Emotional connection with an open relationship
I’ve started talking to a guy in an open marriage (married to another man). We originally connected through an app where there was some flirtation/sexual openness, but over about a week we’ve ended up talking daily and getting on really well generally. He’s also said he’s totally happy being friends too.
I’m trying to understand how common it is in open relationships for connections to become emotionally close as well as flirtatious/casual. I don’t want to project too much onto it or assume it means more than it does.
For people in open relationships, or who’ve dated people in them:
- is daily messaging fairly normal?
- does it usually stay casual?
- how do you tell the difference between friendliness, attraction, emotional interest, etc?
I’m aware that he goes quiet in the evenings… when a work day comes to an end and I assume his husband is home with him. I disabled my account on the app but checked back on it today and he’s been offline for the same amount of time that we’ve had each others number, so he’s not using it either.
I’m probably overthinking it a bit so totally expecting someone to say that, but interested in honest perspectives nonetheless. It’s the first time I’ve sort of got to know someone in an open relationship. Its not something I’ve ever been involved with and I didn’t start the conversation, he did, and I’ve not initiated any sexual talk, it was him that became flirty and said he’d be happy to hook up but also happy to just be friends.
I think my issue is that I crave connections. I want more friends, likely more than sex. Just not sure where this is going.