Full custody dad dating help
I am new to dating a single parent with 2 boys 9 and 13.
The mom lives hrs away and she voluntarily walked out of the marriage/has severe mental issues, had to be hospitalized for mental illness, spent all the divorce money before they even finalized the divorce and lived in her car waiting for her turn for custody while they were figuring out the schedule.
I looked at the court record and I saw he filed for emergency ex parte and he has them daily, she visits supervised with his ex mil sometimes she’s unsupervised. She is fighting for overnights every other weekend but she has no place (just living with a friend over the weekend). Delusion runs in the family.
I want to be hidden from her knowing about me as long as possible, she will go to crazy lengths and she is plotting to get more $ or custody time.
We are in the super early stage of dating. So I need help (I don’t need to be told to run, I’ve vetted him and I have a friend that knows him, she knew him before his ex wife went off)
So, since he has them at all times, and he drives and drops them off to school, a sport, and he has them both signed up for another regular extracurricular, he told me one time they had choir, maybe they have other extracurriculars like a second language I’m not aware of, but I had a similar schedule with a single parent
His ex mil helps once a week to cook and take them to an outing like the park, etc.
What can I reasonably expect for availability and managing my boundaries so we both know we’re putting in the effort since I’ve only had relationships with no child /no divorce men?
He told me women he’s dated in the past say they’re ok with him having kids then later they don’t understand his responsibilities and get jealous of time he’s with his kids. He said right now prioritizing his kids and time with his kids is most important because of what they went through. He sees his guy friends once a week to drink/play bets/watch the game on Sunday evenings typically.