My mom said some hurtful things... cultural difference?
I visited home for the holiday and its the first time ive seen my mother since my partner died. She started asking me a lot of questions, some i dont have the answer to and others i did not feel comfortable sharing with her. In her own way, she tried to cheer me up... but i felt it ended up hurtful. Things like "at least you two different marry", "youre still young", "treat him like your ex's and forget about him". I dont know if she has lost anyone close to her. Both her parents are alive, and her husband (my dad) is still around.
Ive always had a hard time telling her things feeling like she wouldnt understand. She only knew of my partner's passing bc I asked my sibling to tell her. And todays experience makes me feel more inclined to hid truths from her.
Im wondering if this maybe is a cultural thing. Im of chinese descent. My dad hasnt asked or spoken. Maybe bc he understands... he lost people in his life.
Has anyone else have similar experience from their parent or parents?