Need advice - post wedding
Recently got married to my now husband and wanted some advice on how to move forward after, what I perceived to be, really odd behavior from my MIL.
I’ll try to keep this short since I don’t want to sound like a soap box. She has a history of problematic behavior, but I really didn’t think it would bleed into my now husband and I’s wedding day.
Let’s start with the rehearsal dinner. We went and decorated the venue and that was madness but all fine. After we ran through the ceremony, MIL started taking pictures. She took multiple pictures of her family and her son. Never once did she ask for a photo with me. When I thought they were done taking pics I said to my fiancé “hey babe let’s go to moms I’m ready to eat”. MIL goes “wait, I never get photos with just the three of them. (Fiancé and his two sisters) But just let me know when you need him to leave and that will be fine!” So I stood there and let them take pictures since I didn’t want to rock the boat.
Second incident happened at my mother’s house. Fiancé came up to me and gave me a hug and kissed me on the forehead. MIL saw this interaction, comes over, takes my fiancé out of my arms and starts embracing him. She says to him “how are we going to dance tomorrow? We need to practice. I’m not used to dancing in heels”. At this point it seems she wants a reaction from me (I could be wrong in that assumption), but I just go outside and help my mom put away chairs and clean up.
Third incident happened on the wedding day itself. My MIL does not get along with my husbands uncles. That’s a long story in and of itself, but they took something that was my husbands after the wedding ceremony. My husband was really upset, and my MIL ended up calling my husbands uncles and threatened them, on our wedding day. We ended up getting the item back and everything was fine after that, I thought we had moved on. But at the end of the night, when we were all cleaning up, my MIL brought up the incident again, started trash talking my husbands uncles, and provoked my husband to anger over that situation all over again. He later admitted he felt manipulated by her, and didn’t speak to her for a few days.
Fourth incident also happened on the wedding day. She does not like my sister in laws boyfriend and believes they will break up soon. According to my husband, on the wedding day, she continually tried to get my husband to tell me to leave this boyfriend out of family photos. My husband didn’t bring this up to me on the day itself because he knew it would upset me. I was shocked she expected me to intentionally leave him out of family portraits. I would never single someone out like that, especially someone who has been a part of the family for years.
My question is, if you were me, would you go low contact? (Note: this is the plan for just myself, I couldn’t put an ultimatum on my husband)