u/lizzyblannit

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I hate my parents

After I finished my exams last Wednesday, I called my dad to ask if I could go to the cinemas to watch the new Michael Jackson film and he said yes that’s no problem. 10 minutes later I get a call from him asking who I’m gonna go with and I said my friend I’m gonna call her emma. Emma is black. My dad said we shouldn’t mix with “those kind of people”. These kind of people? Is he being so fr? I knew he was racist but he’s never said anything like this before. I just ended the call because I know that arguing about what he said will only give him an opportunity to hit me. Call me coward or whatever but I just know that sort of behaviour won’t go anyway in this situation. But he does know I’m openly against racism and misogyny so he knows im against what he just said. He also knows who emma is, keep in mind she’s my only friend and he’s dropped and picked me up when we’ve hanged out so that was also another reason why I was so distraught.

My sister was in the car and she heard everything so when we went home SHE began arguing with him and saying what he’s saying is so out of touch and that he cannot be a true Christian and have these type of views. He began yelling and spitting at her saying things like if we do we’re gonna bring home an African husband and that we are insane and there’s something wrong with our brain to basically not be racist. I am not gonna give up my friendship with emma because of my racist parents because frankly emma means more to me than they do and what they said about her completely broke my heart and changed my view on them fully. My mother was in the corner just nodding and agreeing to whatever he said even though she loved my sisters black friends, but since now he’s against us hanging out with them now it’s wrong. Ever since that day we’ve been staying in our room and going out together with our small little sister and avoiding my parents.

A week later, (I knew this was coming but I was dreading it) my dad came into my room saying it’s not ok that we don’t talk to them and that he knows we’re angry about what he said about black people. I kept majority of my answers short because I know if I say one wrong thing all hell will break loose. He said whenever we yell at them they don’t ice us out and I said well we don’t make it seem we’re about to hit you or spit on you, you could’ve said things more nicely and less threatening. He began to act like he didn’t do what he did and said if he was going to hit my sister he would’ve like that makes things seem better. Anyways he had the same conversation with my sister and it went the same she mentioned what he did and he completely denied doing it. I’m just so tired of his fucking behaviour and I hate that me and my sister are being called stupid and that there’s something mentally wrong with us for not being racist. Oh and to mention we ain’t even white our selves we’re gypsy and you’d think since we get discriminated he’d think racism is wrong but no he thinks we’re the superior ethnicity some how. Befor you guys say call someone or report him I can’t do that I just wanna ask if anyone knows what I should do next. Should i just not avoid going downstairs where they are and just give them short answers or idk.

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u/lizzyblannit — 3 days ago