u/lollo_pan

My 4 weeks old (EFF) woke up around 3am and my husband fed him 150ml. He fell asleep shortly after and I put him back in his crib to sleep. He woke up around 5.30am, a shorter time frame than usual (about 1-2hr earlier than I expected) seemingly hungry. I stalled a few minutes then tried the paci to see his reaction and he attacked it lol and started fussing and crying so I prepared him a bottle, he got increasingly hangry while waiting for it to cool down so I picked him up and tried to calm him down with contact and the paci. Then he fell asleep and now (6.40am) he is deep asleep. Before getting him back into his crib I caressed his mouth the paci and my finger but he kept it closed.

Should I have tried to wake him up and feed him?

Additional context- I am a FTM and we’ve been trying hard to get an undestranding of how much he should be eating to avoid over/underfeeding.

His birth weight was 4kg, then dropped to 3.5 in the first week since I had no milk and we have been formula feeding since then,m.

The second and third week he gained steadily (3.9kg and 4.3kg,m), this week seems like he gained much less (4.35kg). Ped suggested increasing quantities and feed him until he is full but he very rarely seems full, if we dont take the bottle away he keeps on sucking (we practice paced eating to make it last longer)… and 150ml a bottle for a 4wo seems like a lot already? However he did not gain much this week.. i am confused! Opinions?

My partner and I have a 15-day-old baby. So far — knock on wood — he's been a pretty easy baby. No colic, rarely cries unless he's hungry or needs a diaper change. Maybe it's his temperament, maybe the fact that he's mostly formula-fed. Either way, we feel incredibly lucky.

That said, perhaps because things have been relatively smooth, we find ourselves more anxious than expected when we can't read his cues. Every little sign we don't immediately understand feels like a big deal.

Here's the thing: we have two absolutely amazing grandmothers who adore him and are incredibly helpful. They live nearby (my mother-in-law is literally one floor above us) and are always ready to come over — whether to hold him, feed him, or settle him to sleep so we can rest, eat a proper meal, or take a shower. We are truly fortunate.

But here's what's been on my mind: part of me feels anxious about how easy it is to hand things over to them or call them at the first sign of difficulty. Are we terrible parents for leaning on them so much? How do you find the confidence to just... do it on your own?

I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for with this post — maybe just to hear from others who've been in a similar situation and see how they navigated it.

Hi everyone! My baby is 8 days old and my partner will be going back to work in a few days. So far we've always managed together — feeds, diaper changes, and settling him to sleep.

Our current routine looks like this: we change him together, then I breastfeed for about 10 minutes while my partner prepares the formula (though I don't always breastfeed), then one of us gives the bottle. Afterwards, one of us cleans and sterilizes it or prepares another one in case he's still hungry, and one of us settles him to sleep. It's all fairly interchangeable at the moment (I tend to be more in charge of feeding and putting him to sleep while my partner handles changing him and preparing bottles, but it's not very clear cut).

We're currently using ready-made liquid formula that we take straight from the fridge to prepare the bottles. Also, we all sleep in the same room — baby in the bassinet by my side, while my partner and I share our bed as usual, which is important to us. We don't want to sleep separately all night if we can help it.

Once my partner goes back to work, I'll need to handle all of this on my own during the day, and we'll also need to figure out nighttime so that at least one of us gets some sleep.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any tips on how to manage the routine alone without waking the sleeping parent up and avoiding baby meltdowns? Thank you so much! 🙏