INTJ and ESFP
Hey people! I was looking around both the r/intj and this r/ESFP to try and see what were people's take in a relationship between these two types, be it friendship or something romantic, and I gotta say I was somewhat surprised.
My best friend is an ESFP and we get along together very well, and even knowing beforehand that this was probably an exception—after all, both types are completely opposite of each other—, I was surprised to see how much both types see each other negatively, especially how INTJs apparently see themselves as superior to ESFPs.
I recognize my friend's qualities fully and I can very well understand that he excels a lot in places where I can basically only transit through if he's with me, just like he needs and actively asks for my help for uni stuff. Overall we have a really great friendship, and it's very useful to be around someone that's the complete opposite of yourself, as you're basically around a whole different world all the time and it kinda exposes you to a lot of stuff you wouldn't experience otherwise.
So, my question: why do you think both types tend to see each other in such negative fashion?
From my side, I can say I don't understand how (true) INTJs can judge another type and call themselves rational and pragmatic at the same time. For me, long-term goals and excellence are a priority, but I'm not an idiot and I know each type has its own strengths and whatever one prioritizes is just what they think in the end and what's a priority to them might not be to someone else.