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hi guys i’m an esfp 2w3 and recently just went through this really complicated and messy sort of break up thing. that’s mildly related but i was told by my intp sister that one of the main reasons im feeling so distressed about what happened and why i keep making the same mistakes is because im not introspective. seeing as im an esfp and Ni is my most inferior function i wanted to develop it a bit more but i just don’t know how to do that.

any and all advice would be appreciated :)

I'll first start by saying I do not know too much about cognitive functions and how they work EXACTLY, so I'm asking from help from others to ask 1. Can I be Se/Ne somehow? 2. If so, would that just make me an ExFP on the four letter MBTI? 3. If not, how on earth do I determine if I'm SeNi or NeSi?

I promise I did my research, i just particularly cannot grasp the concept of sensing nor intuition at all. It took me several hours over 2 days to understand the basic concept of those four functions. So I barely understand them at all, let alone which set is more like me. I don't really see myself in any of them. I know I'm 10000% TeFi though, especially Te. I saw myself in that immediately.

The gist of Se vs Si that I understood was that Se is focusing on your immediate, present environment while Si is more like learning from your past experiences and using it as a guideline for the present (??). Bit less confusing than intuition. I have no idea what to think of that, I don't relate to either of them, but I think I'm more Se? Once again, not really sure what this is even supposed to apply to. I don't think I've ever had a problem or anything where I had to use my past experiences as a guideline, I do focus more on the present in that sense; but at the same time I live in my own head a lot. A lot more than being grounded in reality. So I guess that's more Si?? But I don't exactly act that way, though?

Ne/Ni was even more confusing for me to grasp, and barely so. Still cannot exactly wrap my head around why Ne and Ni must be mutually exclusive because I've yet to find a single online explanation or definition that doesn't use stupid metaphors or stereotypes. That one inverted tree metaphor haunts me. Cannot understand why you cannot be a brainstormer and explore unlimited possibilities while also narrowing things down to one conclusion and focusing on details. Those two things are not opposites to me at all? But I might be taking it all too literally.

Anyway, even with that aside, I do also think I am more Ne? Once again I have no idea how I think or act when it comes to that nor do I really know what specific situation these need to apply to? But I have recieved input from my two typology friends and they told me I was a lot more Ne, probably. Still can't really see it though.. then again can't see Ni either.

As far as MBTI goes I genuinely have related more to ESFP and I've been calling myself that, but if I HAD to pick between NiSe or SiNe I'd pick SiNe I guess? which would make me pretty much closer to/an ENFP? But I still see myself as more of an ESFP maybe? Neither one is completely me i guess.

Does NOT help that Se is ENFP demon function nor that Ne is ESFP demon function as well. Even if I'm leaning towards NeSi or NiSe the other two functions definitely aren't the least developed for me.

Would appreciate the input of anyone that knows a tiny bit about this more than I do, thank you.

Hi, INTJ here.

So... There is this one ESFP. I have met her for the first time like 1.5 years ago. She was with a guy and they vanished into the forest for 10 minutes and returned all red faced with an aquard smile 😏.

Then the next time I saw her was like 6 months later and since then I have regular contact with her. She formally wasn't in a relationship with this guy but she had sex with him etc. Everyone knew that it wasn't just a friend. They acted like they were in a relationship but they formally weren't.

She fell in love with me then. It was a year ago and she started flirting with me, giving me signs that she is into me and everything while still having this relationship with this guy. She almost kissed me, she was holding my hand and things like that to the extent that I was feeling uncomfortable. Everything while still having a relationship with this guy.

She was able to lose contact with him for me. I started ghosting her cause I don't want to have a girlfriend who already has a boyfriend and she cried but hasn't told anyone why but it was obvious to me. Then they started dating officially but they had broken up a few months ago and she's now starting all over again.

Why is that. Can u explain the mental process for everything above? I don't understand anything.

ENFP here and I have a good friend who is ESFP and since he has been typed as both ENFP and ESTP before, it made me curious as to which mistyping is more common for ESFPs. What has been your experience?

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hi i'm still looking for my mbti i always get 1.ESTP/2.ISTP 3.ESFP. i'm a girl 22yo

i make sure that everyone is included in the group and feels like they belong and are not left out, even if I don’t always feel it emotionally or sometimes I do. I still feel obligated to do it because I don’t want anyone to be hurt. It’s not necessarily because I feel it deeply every time, but because it is a principle I have. ( Ti-Fe ? )

I really don’t think I’m a Fe-dominant type, because that kind of thing drains me, and other people’s emotions drain me as well. I don’t enjoy helping others, and I don’t like feeling responsible for them or guiding them in their decisions.

I can do it from time to time if I feel that the person is not becoming dependent on my opinion. What I truly enjoy is debating or sharing my knowledge when it involves logic and reasoning. For example, solving a problem or explaining a logical calculation is mentally stimulating to me, because I like demonstrating that I can reason clearly.

I also rarely know what I’m feeling. Most of the time, I feel nothing in particular. My emotions tend to come more from external experiences, such as going out or spending time with people I care about. And when I’m not doing well, it’s usually other people who tell me that I should talk about my problems.

don’t really like my personality because I become very very attached to people. I genuinely love being around others, and even if I’ve only talked to someone once, I may immediately want to see them, meet up, go out, or have a meal together.

I’m often drawn to people I find attractive, and I can get emotionally attached to them very quickly. But when I’m no longer with them, I sometimes start questioning the point of having friends at all, or I suddenly feel drained and lose interest for a while.

Even so, I know that I do care about them and that my feelings for them are real. It’s just that my desire for connection tends to come in intense waves, followed by moments of emotional distance. That’s why I like having a lot of friends, so I don’t get tired of any one friend.

I’m not a very talkative person. My conversations are usually quite simple and based on what I see around me, the things in my environment, and straightforward connections between them like food, activities, or whatever is happening in the moment. If nothing comes to mind, I don’t force the conversation.

I don’t naturally have the kind of conversations where ideas keep branching out endlessly the way they often seem to for Ne-dominant types.

If I invite someone over and we don’t do anything in particular, I tend to become quiet and nonchalant; I may not talk at all, and I find that boring. On the other hand, if we cook together, go out, or do some kind of activity, that’s when I feel like myself, as long as emotions come to me it all depends on whether that happens.

That’s why I thought I might be an ISTP or ISFP, but my very sociable side approaching people and really liking people a lot makes others tell me that I might be an ESTP or ESFP.

As an INFJ I have Ni as my dominant function so I would be curious to hear how it shows up for yall!

how to know if i'm esfp or estp?

I’m an ENTP female and I’m pretty sure a guy I’m into is an ESFP. I don’t know a ton about him, but we sort of had a love at first sight thing and I’m curious how you express interest or see my situation. I flirt with a lot of people for fun and we’re both seemingly pretty outgoing, but we met awhile ago and I can’t really get him off my mind. I didn’t really do anything afterwards and saw him a couple times where it seemed like he expected me to talk to him. I’m pretty sure he’s aware of me and we’re in the same circles. It’s weird because I’m usually relatively outgoing, but never initiated anything afterwards which is out of character for me. I think we got along pretty well in the first place. For the last little while, I get the impression that we’re sort of preforming in each other’s peripheries to see if anything happens, but I could be reading too much into it. He’s relatively expressive in general from what I’ve seen. Is there anything else you’d want to know? What should I pay attention to on his end?

What are the basic differences of these 2 in their behavious and traits based on each functions stacks and socionics

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