Asking for advice about my friend
My friend is schizophrenic and recently went through a psychotic episode. I was in the middle of finals when this was happening, and while having an episode, a friend was hitting his hands on furniture and yelling (which I found triggers my PTSD). I planned on moving in with him, but ended up telling him that it was hard for me to give 100% to both of us and that I also didn’t know how to help him with his schizophrenia.
I would often end up at his house later at night, helping him solve his issues when I didn’t really have the time to. I tried to set boundaries by letting him know that I had things to do, but instead of relying on his partner for help lately, it’s been me, and now our relationship is so exhausting. He is extremely erratic, and when I told him I didn’t think I could live with him, he said that he knew he was erratic, but he wasn’t a danger to himself, that he wasn't schizophrenic and it was just CPTSD and he just needed support.
He said that he was there for me and basically that I needed to be there for him. But I need support too, and yet I’m always taking care of him. Yesterday I came home from a really fun day out, and he said he was feeling upset and suicidal and that he wasn’t happy. I kept trying to talk about things that we could do to improve the moment, but he didn’t want to hear it and started having a tone with me.
I think I asked if he talked to his partner, and he said with an additude what do you want me to say to them? He refuses to get a therapist and says that bad things just keep happening to him. He doesn’t want to go and get help for his depression, takes no meds for it, and doesn’t want to see a therapist, and I don’t know how to help him. It’s hard to live my life when I’m parenting him. I feel stuck and am unsure what to do.