I need some support please
I am sitting at home right now with my 3 young boys while my wife is at her boyfriend's house to "see how it feels". I am an absolute wreck. I told her if she does this that there is no coming back from this, separation starts tonight, she drove away (in my car) anyways.
A little backstory, I 36M have been with my wife 35F for 18 years married for 10. We have 3 boys 11,8,4. She was caught cheating in February by a member of her family, then later revealed to me that it's been happening since last summer. The affair partner was a close friend of mine, my kids called him uncle. I've noticed the inappropriate relationship for over 2 years and called it out then, but let it keep going. He came to my house on weekends and played with my kids. I've been nothing but loving and understanding since the reveal but have received nothing but anger and disrespect in return. This was the last straw. I feel like a ghost in my own body. The person I've loved half of my life has absolutely destroyed me with no remorse. I just need to be heard. Not sure how to carry on from here.