u/lurker081625

We have r/AsOneAfterInfidelity for people who want to try and keep the relationship (not recommended, but that's their lives).

We have r/BreakUps for people who want to chuck the relationship.

We have Tinder and bars for hookups.

What more do cheaters need? You fucked up. Take responsibility and fuck off.

Also the "advice" in that sub is stupid. I believe there are people who are trying to destroy cheaters by giving the DUMBEST advice I have ever seen.

For instance this: https://www.reddit.com/r/SupportforWaywards/comments/1ulmoay/ws_looking_for_a_sign_things_will_be_ok_im_losing/

tldr: Cheater got caught when they passed an STI to their spouse. Cheater trickle truth and lied during marriage counseling and spouse is finally done with the relationship. The whole post is the cheater whining about how their past childhood trauma and whatnot is the reason for their cheating, blah blah blah. Didn't take responsibility at all.

Then there's this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/SupportforWaywards/comments/1uhqkro/comment/ov99zsr/

Someone gave advice to a cheater, telling her that she needs to treat the betrayed spouse way better...sexually...

Yeah...because constantly pressuring them for sex is totally going to fix your relationship when you cheated on them.

That entire sub should just be shut down.

Is this common for narcissists? I feel the answer is yes, I wanted to double check.

Nmom has moved...over 10 times over 30 years. (All apartment rentals, doesn't own property.)

Every new place, she NEEDS to pick a fight with a neighbor. It's usually downstairs. Chair throwing, breaking stuff just to make noise, speakers on the floor that only play knocking sounds.

We could be on a call for legal issues (totally different topic) and she would interrupt to complain about the neighbors.

Too bad we can't forcefully confine them to an elderly home.

First of all, thank you for this community.

Anything can set them off. Oh no, I'm washng my hands in the kitchen sink and water splashed into YOUR clean drinking mug on the counter. WHY WAS IT THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE?!

There should be more awareness over NPD. I mean there's a lot of emphasis on depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, which is rightfully so, but we also need to emphasize NPD which seems to be everywhere if you look closely enough. A lot of people don't believe that NPD is an illness, they think it's just bad personality. No, it's an illness. Unfortunately I haven't seen an instance where it was cured, just hidden.