Why True Believers Turn Into The Most Vicious Haters
If you want to see pure hatred, don't look at rival political mobs screaming at each other.
Look at the person who just woke up and realized they wasted years of their life believing a massive lie.
Picture someone who is a true believer. They will fight tooth and nail for a cause, an ideology (political or religious), or a leader.
They will defend it against all logic and reason. But then, the words of the non-believers start to make a crack in his mind.
With time, that crack gets wider and wider until they open their eyes. Now they see clearly that they have been played for a fool.
If they have fought rabidly for the cause, if they would happily bleed for the ideology, now they have turned into crusaders.
To better understand this, let’s look at addiction.
If you've ever lived with someone hooked on drugs, alcohol, or gambling, you know how this cycle works.
They’ll look you dead in the eye and swear they are cutting back, or that they've quit entirely.
You might feel hopeful that they’ve finally come to their senses.
But inevitably, a month or three passes, they take a little taste, and before you know it, they are plunging right back into hard usage like nothing ever changed.
The truth is that they never quit. They were simply taking a temporary break.
They might have truly believed they had reached the tipping point, and they probably convinced you too, but the underlying psychological grip never let go.
The behavior of someone who truly escapes the claws of addiction is different.
These people rarely make a spectacle out of it. They politely refuse a drink and quietly mention they are sober.
But if you dig deeper - if you really try to understand how the fuck this person is not getting wasted, you will discover a profound shift.
They are not just avoiding it. They are physically and mentally disgusted by it. So much so that they have or will become the most ruthless advocates against alcohol, drugs, smoking, gambling, etc.
It's weird to witness this transformation.
It doesn't seem to make any sense.
But it does.
The reason is that they are no longer brainwashed.
They have finally understood the gravity of their entrapment... How they hurt themselves and their loved ones.
What’s heavier is the realization that they have done all of this needlessly. All this destruction is pointless.
I mean, when you are addicted, destruction has a purpose. Stealing from your parents, committing a crime, fighting with your family, it all feels justified - Your brain literally believes the substance is necessary for survival.
But once the brainwashing stops, they realize that it truly was pointless.
They are finally clearly seeing that this substance has never been their loyal companion. It was a vicious parasite - A true wolf in sheep's clothing.
It's the same mechanism when you abandon an ideology [Christianity, Islam, Mormonism, Scientology, the far left, the far right, etc].
Think about it.
You dedicate a great deal of time and energy, and you even sacrifice your closest relationships for it. And it all makes sense because you are not doing it needlessly. You are fighting a holy war.
And then, for whatever reason, you get disillusioned; you de-brainwash yourself; then you can't help but feel deeply betrayed; you can't help but feel deeply used and manipulated...
So what is left except a burning contempt for the lies that stole those years of your life?
But there's another darker route people take when faced with disillusionment.
When the cracks start to show, most people cannot stomach the humiliation of admitting they were conned.
So instead of breaking free, they actively work to maintain their own brainwashing. They willingly and actively work to become a bigger sheep - all it’s needed to avoid the pain of the truth.
You have seen the fanatics. You see the people who incite hatred, fights, and even commit heinous crimes in the name of the ideology. And you would think they are the true believers.
They might be. But more often than not, those are the biggest doubters in the room.
As a way to compensate for the relentless, heretical doubts, they speak more loudly, and they attack or even kill others to "prove" their loyalty.
So if you're a fanatic, the odds are high that you have strong doubts.
Note: I'm not saying that any particular political or religious ideology is wrong, evil, or anything like that.
I'm just looking from the perspective of someone who was a true believer and is not anymore.
It's very difficult for them to have a "quiet divorce".
They don't just quit; they also have to be a crusader against the substance or ideology.
And since it feels like a deep betrayal, the backlash is very strong.
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