My bf told me im a bad person
Lately, things between us have really fallen apart. We’ve been arguing a lot. I can handle some hurtful words during an argument, even though they still hurt me.
Today we argued again because of a misunderstanding. I felt like, once again, he didn’t let me finish what I was trying to say. Instead, he immediately jumped to conclusions, saying things like, “We both know you didn’t mean anything other than XYZ.” That triggered really intense emotions in me, which, of course, turned into, “As usual, you can’t control your emotions.”
He keeps telling me that all I want is to argue and that I’m doing all of this on purpose.
And finally, he texted me, “You’re really a bad person. I don’t know what’s actually good about you—that’s just a mask.”
That hurt me deeply. No one has ever told me that I’m a bad person before. Hearing it from my boyfriend makes me feel truly awful.
I think that maybe even if we’re not right for each other, that doesn’t mean he should talk about me like that. And it isn’t the first time he’s said things like this to me.It hurts me that he seems to see only those things in me whenever there’s a misunderstanding and we end up arguing.
And fuck… the person I love, and who supposedly loves me, is telling me how awful I am. It wouldn’t have hurt me as much if he had said I was being rude or even acting like a bitch. But when the person you love tells you that you’re genuinely a bad person, that there’s nothing kind about you, and that it’s all just a mask… I don’t feel like I’m worth anything in his eyes after these words.