Who else isn’t worried about connecting with bio family?
So I found out 100% 6 years ago that my BCF isn’t my BF when on my ancestry it said my sister was only my half sister!
This shouldn’t have been shocking as it was rumored by my mom’s side shortly before this discovery he wasn’t my bio dad. It was heartbreaking and earth shattering non the less. I cried and discussed this with my husband, sister, and best friend that’s IT.
I guess on one hand it’s slightly a relief that BCF isn’t my dad because he actually showed up on my husband’s ancestry matches… we figured out that it’s because they are related on my dads dad side of the family.
The kicker is I am technically related to BCF on his mom’s side. My great great grandmother is my BCFs great grandmother. I think this brings me a little peace in knowing we still share some DNA even though it’s a very small amount.
Anyways I randomly check ancestry to see if I have any matches to figure out who BF is and finally early last year I had a match for uncle. So unless my bio grandparents have a secret child it was easy to narrow it down.
I don’t think I really have any desire to “connect” but I’d love to just know for sure but I don’t want to reach out and cause any issues within either of our families.
I did always feel different that my dad my sister looks just like him and they share way more interest but he never made me feel any less loved or treated me any differently. My parents are still married so this makes everything so much tricker, also my mother was technically a minor when I was conceived and BF was 7 years older than her so that is off putting.
I’m hoping one day my BFs daughter will do ancestry so I can know without having to reach out to anybody. I also wonder if my uncle has ever mentioned it. I don’t know their relationship but it seems he isn’t FB friends with his SIL or niece and BF doesn’t have one so I’m assuming he probably saw me as a match and chose to ignore it.