u/maricoon

Hi Reddit.
About a year ago, I started dating a girl I had already known for a while from school. We ran into each other at a fair, started talking again, and at first everything was just friendly. After a few months of going out and getting closer, we ended up becoming a couple.

I’ve always trusted her. She’s responsible, reserved, respectful, and honestly, she has always given me reasons to feel secure. For most of our relationship, I was basically the only person she went out with. We used to spend almost every weekend together, from Friday to Sunday, and sometimes even five days a week. We never really got tired of being around each other.

We’ve shared a lot of things together. She trusts me, I trust her, and overall we’ve had a good relationship. Of course, we’ve had a few arguments, but nothing too serious. She has told me things she had never told anyone else, I’ve spent time with her family many times, and we’ve had many experiences that made the relationship feel meaningful and serious.

Recently, she got an internship opportunity in Italy through her university. It lasts 6 months, but there’s also a chance that the company might hire her afterward. She left the country about a month ago.

At first, things were still okay. We talked every day through FaceTime and told each other about our days. But about two weeks ago, she was moved into an apartment with other interns. She told me it was difficult for her at first, but lately I’ve felt her becoming a little more distant.

I understand that she’s in a new country, meeting new people, adapting to a different life, and probably making new friends. I don’t want to control her or stop her from enjoying this experience. But it worries me when I feel like she doesn’t keep me in contact like before.

She has always told me that if she is with me, she won’t look for anyone else because she is committed to our relationship. I believe her, but I still feel scared sometimes. I also worry that her roommates might influence her negatively, since some of them have made questionable comments and seem to enjoy going out partying a lot.

I know it has only been one month since she left, and maybe I’m overthinking too early. But I really care about her, and I feel like I truly want to be with her. That’s why it would hurt a lot if, at some point, she started forgetting about me or the relationship slowly faded away.

This is my first time on a LDR and it’s been a little hard because I’m a very affectionate person.