u/maspan_menoscircos

My mom has been in very very poor health. I do not think she is going to pass soon, but she's not going to get better. My father has been caring for her for the past several years. How do I best support him and her right now? He and my mom both try to "shield" me from what is going on (my mom in particular gets very distressed whenever she sees that I am upset/sad at her health situation).

Some context that makes it harder:

• I have no siblings, so it's just me
• I live a different city from my parents
• My dad does not have close friends and isn't the type to easily ask for help

I'm trying to figure out how to support my dad through this and help him not be blindsided or alone when the time comes. I want to help him build some kind of support system before things get worse, and figure out how to stay connected in a meaningful way from a distance. I figure this is an okay subreddit to ask for advice on this. How do I bring this up with him without it feeling like I'm rushing toward the worst-case scenario? What helped you in the months before/after losing a spouse?

My mom is in very very poor health. I do not think she is going to pass tomorrow, but she's not going to get better. My father has been caring for her for the past several years. I'm trying to figure out how to support my dad through this and help him not be blindsided or alone when the time comes.

Some context that makes it harder:

• I have no siblings, so it's just me
• I live a different city from my parents
• My dad does not have close friends and isn't the type to easily ask for help

I want to help him build some kind of support system before things get worse, and figure out how to stay connected in a meaningful way from a distance. I figure this is an okay subreddit to ask for advice on this. How do I bring this up with him without it feeling like I'm rushing toward the worst-case scenario? What helped you (or would have helped) in the weeks/months after losing a spouse?

Early in career and targeting roles in government, contracting.

I'm a dues-paying member of the Working Families Party. For those unfamiliar, WFP is an electoral party that endorses and runs candidates within normal Democratic political channels.

My questions:

1. Would WFP membership need to be disclosed on an SF-86?

2. If so, how is it typically viewed by investigators?

3. Does the level of involvement matter (e.g., just paying dues vs. holding a position)?

For context, I am NOT a member of DSA or any real wackadoos like PSL or CPUSA or whatnot. I'm trying to do my homework early before any of this becomes relevant.