u/mediocre-weirdo

People whose first language is not English, which English words do you mix up or confuse for eachother? Or if it’s a different language besides English and you’re willing to explain to me what the translation is, that’s cool too!

I was thinking about this the other day when I was showing someone how close “coffee” and “make out” are in ASL. Then I thought that if English wasn’t my first language, and someone was speaking fast, that “success” and “sex” might trip me up.

Which words get you?

I have a friend who I haven’t hung out with 1:1 since we first hung out. She always changes the plan to something involving her girlfriend.

For example, I’d ask to go to go to a museum. She can’t for some reason. She suggests going over to their house for karaoke and drinks with her girlfriend instead some time.
If I were to suggest going to go skating there’s some reason why she can’t. But then, she suggests going out sledding with her girlfriend.

It’s not that I don’t like the partner! She seems nice but really quiet and a bit standoffish. I’ve even invited both them to an event of mine where my partner was also there. Outside of friend bringing her along, the girlfriend doesn’t reach out or try to talk to me or anything. Which is fine, it doesn’t bother me, we just don’t click as much, but then next time I want to hang out I suggest an activity for the 2 of us and friend has a magic reason why she can’t go. But then a bit later she suggests another activity with her partner for a different day. Plus I get super awkward in group settings, so I prefer 1:1

To be clear, it’s not the activities I’m suggesting that they don’t like, I know they like them too.

And it’s not like I’m being flirty or something where she would want to invite someone to make sure it’s clear it’s not a date. ( Ive done that before lol) I’ve never felt like that towards them. If anything I think my friend may be a bit attracted to me. Their relationship is open so the girlfriend wouldn’t care about that, but i just don’t see them that way and my relationship isn’t open so it’s definitely not that.

I’m getting frustrated because I want to hang out but groups make me so anxious and I don’t want to be a third wheel and I don’t want to have to bring my partner just to not be one but I feel like they would be offended if I told them I wanted it to be just us.

Anyways.

Am I overreacting? Is it for any reason? I understand wanting to bring the partner sometimes, I don’t mind that at all. But it’s every time. Are they doing it on purpose or am I reading into things too much?

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I’m plus size/fat and I want to try a pole dancing/heels classes for empowerment and a fun way to get moving. I’m wondering if there’s any fat/plus size friendly classes that don’t imply a goal of losing weight? I just want to learn/have fun with a teacher and some cool people who aren’t experts, and look like me