Are my boundaries unreasonable?
Our baby girl is 4 months and my mother in law is visiting this week to help care for her while we are both at work during the day. My mil is in her 70s, very underweight and has osteoporosis. I told my husband that I do not want her carrying the baby up and downstairs because she could break her hip at any time. She has also said before that she needs to hold the handrail for balance on stairs but is denying ever saying it now. My husband says it s fine because his mom goes to the gym and lifts weights, but I am not comfortable with it. They both keep talking about how crazy I am being, I need some perspective. Is this boundary crazy or common? I am thankful she is helping out but still want my baby to be safe
Just to clarify: we have everything set up on the ground level for her so my mil doesn’t have to go up and down to get anything. pack and play with bassinet and changing table, bottles etc all set up. I know that physically she can lift the baby and walk with her on the ground level, I’m just very risk averse and anxious and I feel that there is a bigger risk for falls going up and downstairs especially when she wants to take her outside where we have multiple narrow brick steps in front of the house.